Social Pancake – Blooming for Success

So April wasn’t good to me. One of the reasons was that my FB, the cougar, would be at the club I was going to. I always go to the same club, I’m pretty much a regular now. (I’m limited to night clubs I go to due to my age) Everytime she would be there, we would spent time together and hookup. Between our time together I would sarge and she knew that too. She isn’t the really jealous type, she didn’t mind me #closing other girls, but kissing wasn’t allowed. If it was for me, I would kiss every girl but my game was so bad that I didn’t even come that far.

As me and my FB would spend more time together, she wanted more out of our ‘relationship’. It came to a point where she is falling for me and says words like “I love you…”. This is really my fault, I read Sinn’s post on advanced comfort where he basicly has dissected ‘love’. I implented some of the ideas and I wanted to see how far I could take it. I guess I took it too far and by acting like a boyfriend…well she was my girlfriend then. I didn’t acknowledge her as my girlfriend, but she actually was. Slowly I became attached to her. I don’t love her, I like her for the sex, that’s really it. But my inner AFC sometimes arose and I would act like a boyfriend who loved her. Then I would snap out of it. I want to have fuck buddies with no strings attached. Now that I know what I can do, next time I’m not going to act like a boyfriend anymore. I want fuck buddies, not girlfriends. Few years down the road, I might be down for multiple LTR, but not now. So no more advanced comfort stuff! I need to apply Captain Jack’s fuck buddy rules!

I just got off the phone with her and I told her it’s best for us to stop seeing each other. No more contact via phone, text, aim, facebook, or twitter. No more of that shit! I’m free again. I do realize I just gave up sex…it’s a bit painful. But I’m looking at the bigger picture. I want to get laid by more girls now and no one is holding me back. I see the light….

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March was good to me, I felt I was on top of my game the whole month and that resulted in a lay, snowballing into my first fuck buddy. You would think that such a success would drive me even higher, but unfortunately that was not the case. April was probably my worst month so far, ever since I started sarging since December ‘07.

Most of the time my sets went nowhere. Even worse was last weekend where I started being a wallflower, choding around, and no sets are hooking. Hence, I felt like I didn’t have any outer game anymore. My mind went through different emotions, “I have no game” or “I got lucky last month”. BULLSHIT! I’m a 10 and everywhere I go women want to fuck me!

Since I had my FB I started to get lazy. Even though I only #closed a few times in April, really maybe only 7-8 numbers the whole month, I was too lazy to call them. I didn’t even attempt to call and do some phone game. Maybe a text, but no calls. I’ve read that once you get success, it’s natural to get lazy. However, my success is when I have women calling me for sex every day. Till then, I have no reason to be lazy!

Approaching big sets was a big hurdle for me. Usually I can handle 3sets well, but the bigger it gets the worse my AA gets. Once I do approach a big set, I feel like I can never reach the hookpoint. I don’t know what it is, but I need to fix this asap. It’s mostly an outer game issue.

Every night I would set goals to achieve. Whether that was approaching more mixed sets, going more direct, or whatever, it would give me something to work on. But most of the nights I didn’t set goals for myself. Maybe that was the reason I was choding around a lot more towards the end of the month.

I feel like my outer game has gone backwards. Before April my comfort and seduction really sucked. Like, all I had in comfort material was the cube. By then I didn’t memorize my custom routine stack yet that I have from El Topo, I only had some attraction material. So I started vibing a lot but it’s something I don’t have control over (yet). My opening and attracting was great in March. Now I feel it’s the reverse. I feel like my opening and attraction is really bad, but once I’m isolated and have enough time it’s almost game over for the girl.

Not once this month did I have that feeling where everything was just money, where I was in state. If I was in state, everything I did was money and I would do crazy shit and could get away with it. Not this month. April really made me depressed! Man, I want that rush again.

What I do like about April is that I can recognize congruence tests now and pass them. I can remember me posting on some boards months ago that I dreadly hated shittests since I always failed them. Now when one comes my way, my radar goes off and I respond accordingly.

There were moments in April where I thought, “why should I even go out tonight, my game sucks….”. It was really bad sometimes, but I kept going out. Even though I had shitty nights, I knew deep inside that I needed to be out there. By just going out I know I would improve one way or another, it’s always better than sitting at home and doing nothing useful. Even if I would chode around a lot, I need to be out and help out my wings. I’m always a good wing, the guys who have me as a wing can always count on me. I go to extremes to help my buddies get their target and giving him enough time. I’m happpy I went out every week and kept opening and attracting.

April was really hit or miss. I might have hit a pleateau. I know most sticking points will auto correct, so I just need to keep going out and start being active again. I need to have a game plan every night so I can see improvement. I know that there are ups and downs, it’s natural and all part of it. I just want to fix this asap and grow in the right direction.

GOALS FOR MAY
I want my opening till deep comfort to be money again. No longer shall I just wing it every night, but I will have goals again that need to be completed. Also I want a new FB! I want to add new material to my stack and I want to have contigencies planned out in advance. I might have to be a social robot for a month, but I can live with that. I need my calibration and money game back. May is going to be off the chain!!!

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In order for myself and others to track my progress, I decided to start a monthly post on how I progressed over the month. At the end of each month, I’m going to look back at my field and lay reports and see what sticking points I have. That way, I can see any growth way faster, or if I hit a plateau it’s easier for me to recognize. Analyzing this on a weekly basis is too tedious and not a good indicator, but a month should be enough time to recognize patterns. So far….April sucks! But I will post soon what was good and what was bad in April.

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So yesterday me and Rince went to another college campus in the OC. We met up with Jackett, Status66 and KingKong who go to school there. We arrive and it always takes me a set to get over that little AA that I still have, but after that one set it’s away. My goal was always to go direct and that way get attraction from the get go.

I can’t remember that much, I did so many sets. What I noticed was that going direct on moving sets is still something I need to work on. Most of the time the girls wouldn’t stop walking and blow me out. There is something wrong with the approach. I go up while they are walking and go:
SS: “Hey…I know this is totally random…but I had to say you are adorable/cute”
HB: Thanks… [walks off]

Time to revise that.

However, stationary sets are way easier. I go direct on sitting and standing sets and didn’t get blown out at all. One girl looked really cute from a distance, but when I come closer I see she has a huge mustache…YUK! Well I still got her number because I AM A CLOSER! But I deleted it right after. Man, mustaches are such a big turn off…

Me and Jackett shoot the shit for a bit till I see this woman in purple and she is just stunning.
SS: Hey you…yeah…I need to ask you something real quick.
HB: Yes…
[I look closer and can't see if it's a professor or student]
SS: Are you a professor or a student?
HB: I’m a professor and teach [forgot it, something with ageing]
SS: Wow..coool. You look very young and are just beautiful.
HB: Thanks you. [walks off]
SS: Woowww, hold on….come back here [waive her over]
SS: Look you are very beautiful…I should totally get your number and sing a duet with you at a karaoke bar.

I didn’t #close but it was fun as hell hitting on this stunning professor. Next time she is mine! :)

One more set stood out and that was a girl who was reading her book. She is on the phone and reading at the same time. I jump in and shock&awe her.

SS: O…Myyy…GOD….
SS: You are absolutely cute…I need to find out more about you.
HB: Hahaha
SS: Who are you’re talking to on the phone?
HB: It’s my sister.
SS: Lemme talk to your sister real quick before I go.
SS: Hey sister, what’s your name?
Sister: [name]
SS: Okay [name], here’s the deal. I saw your sister and I had to say she is really cute so I wanted to know if there was more to it than that. Come on…you better talk good stuff about your sister.
Sister: [telling some stuff about her sister]
SS: Nice…she passed the cool test. Now you have to give me her number so we can eat cotton candy later on.

She wouldn’t give me the number, I gave back the phone and I started grounding. I could have made the interaction solid and longer, but on one end I wanted to grab the number and sarge more girls. I only got her facebook and was persistent when I tried to grab the number. I could have stayed way longer in set with her and make every just solid, but somehow I just didn’t. Oh well…next time. Remember, pussy is an abundant commodity!

Overall, going direct is fun and eliminates the girls you aren’t interested in. I just approached the girls I was attracted too and that made going direct fun. After the direct opener I would just have normal talk and ground/crystallize myself. I got some numbers (all flakes) and facebook closes, but nothing special. Next time I still want to go direct but stay longer in sets to make timebridging more solid.

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Ahhhh nice, another free flow rant. Sko!

So I’m planning to do more day game. I know know… I have that 5sets/day mission, but I horrible failed. I don’t do 5 sets a day, I do sets when I don’t have other stuff to do, which basicly means it’s a low priority now. But I want to change that. I need to go to the gym more to work my pickup muscle, and become more organized. Also, instead of going out 3 nights/week I’m thinking doing 2 nights/week and then 1 daygame/week. Since summer is coming up, I’m pretty sure I’ll be more and more day gaming instead of night gaming. Maybe I’ll go even further and go 2 times day gaming a week. All I know is by the time it’s June, I want to be able to say to myself that I have done lots of day game and will be able to competently day game.

Ever since I got my fuck buddy, I got a bit more lazy. I know I can get ass later so my sets are really just plain, boring, and friendly. I don’t push it anymore like going for the kiss or grabbing some ass or boobs. On the other hand, I’m way less needy which is attractive but I need to find that balance between being non-needy and pushing for it. However, last night I pushed myself again and it felt good. Even though I really didn’t hit state, I just knew again I’m getting my old mojo back where I can go for the kill. It’s coming again,……I feel it!

Instead of writing field reports, I’m thinking of just posting video and audio reports of myself. I think that reflects more what my game really is and seeing improvement is way easier. Unless something really awesome happened, like a realization or something great sets/lays that weren’t on film, I’ll just post videos and audio reports. Heck, maybe this blog will become some sort of video blog. Less typing for me :)

I want to switch up my game a bit more for day game, I want to go more direct. It’s usually a lottery game for me, but there is an art to direct game. I just need to figure it out. I want to try it out as much as possible, fail as many times as I should, and then read about it in ebooks. That way I’ll internalize this stuff better as I can learn from my mistakes. Blow me…or blow me out.

I’m still working on my enoturage mission, and I found out that’s actually pretty hard to ‘make friends’ and keeping in touch with them. Especially that I got lazy when I got my fuck buddy, so I’m trying to fix that. I still do that mission and even befriended a gay guy. And as you know…they have hot female friends :)

Time to hit the gym. Cheers!

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So last night there was only a small crew out, me, D, and roadrally. We were supposed to meet up another guy from the socallair, vegas, and take him a night out with us. I told D that we should help him out that night. What’s good about teaching someone else your skills is that you really have to know your stuff before you can actually explain it to someone. Also, when you teach that’s when you internalize your material. So it would be a win-win situation, vegas gets his feet wet infield and we get our material straight. Since it was only a small crew, we had more time to wing each other and give better feedback.

After befriending the bouncers I open this 2-set. I’m still warming up but the set goes really well. Everything goes smooth and timebridge for karaoke. After the #close I made sure I made the number more solid and kept talking for another 10 minutes.

The rest of the night was okay, nothing really spectacular happened. One blowout really stood out. So I open this 2-set, HB9 and HB8, against the wall. However, they immediatly know that I have a hidden agenda because I don’t disqualify myself. So after 2 minutes they call they guy friend over. Since my sticking point is handling interrupts, this would have been the perfect moment to work on it. So he comes in and I greet him, neg the girls in front of him to make sure I DQ myself but I did it too late. So he puts his arms around the girls and blocks me out. I look at my buddies with amazement, “Wow….I’m gonna steal that one!”

I wing Vegas in this 2-set and tell him just blatantly what to do in front of the girls and they have no idea what we were talking about. So I just told him, “hey man lock in” or “hey tell that car story on the freeway” in which I wanted to see how good he was at improvising. It was funny since he had no idea what I meant and just kept talking. Good job man.

Booyah, I did 2 sets on the dancefloor and both of the times I got the target to dance with me. However, I was pussying to extract the girls from the dancefloor and just left them there. Oh man, I should have pushed for it. Next time.

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