Social Pancake – Blooming for Success

This going to be a short field report due to lack of time and energy.

My goals of the night
GOAL: Work on attraction and buying temperature spiking. Find the extreme.
Open 8 sets / night (two mixed sets, two 4+ sets).
Exercise: Practise “first girlfriend” story.
Exercise: Use “Note to self: do not date this girl” in every set.
Exercise: Practise theREDstack “Non-judgmental #1″ again.

Progress of Goals
Completed them all and attraction was good, due to timing and delivery.

I used the “8 girlfriends” routine that night a lot and it’s a great piece. I did say “note to self, do not date this girl” but not in every set.

In one mixed set I was a dancing monkey but that’s actually a good thing for now. My attraction game was never that tight (comfort way better) so having this “problem” is good for now. I want to push it more and then later at the end of the 3 month program I’ gonna tone it down.

Conclusion
Completed my goals so after that it was freestyling and dancefloor game, just experimening alot. Overall I was happy with my progress. In broader perspective, a below average night, with one solid number.

One thing though. I’ve been trying to come up with some techniques for stealing girls on the dancefloor from guys. So one time I saw two girl standing with their body facing against the wall, while two guys were grinding on them from behind. It was hard to penetrate for me to steal the girl because the guys were all over them. So I literally stood there like 5 minutes watching them and just thinking of some strategy to steal the girl while not getting violent. Must have been funny observing me with this quizzical look ;)

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I’m starting to like day game more and more, as my successes grow. About 8 months ago I started with indirect day game, but I still had bad AA. Now I go direct and have no AA at all. It feels good.

I need some feedback on things and they are highlighted in BOLD. It might be long, so thanks for reading and leaving feedback!

So after my last day game session, I wrote an FR about that, I told myself to create a simple day game stack for the first few minutes to have a structure for opening, transition, attraction, qualification, and then the bounce.

So me, Maui and another guy go shopping at a mall in Glendale. It has both an indoor mall and an outdoor mall, perfect. We get there and do some shopping first because I’m helping Maui out with getting some sexy jeans.

I’m still looking for a specific type of shirt so as I walk around I see this hottie walking that’s going to be my first set of the day. I can only see her back, but she looks fit, so I chase.

SS: (opener) Hi, I noticed you from over there…and I have to say….you are…absolutely….gorgeous. (… denote pauses) [direct contact with smile] Hi I’m SirSlick. [stretch arm]
HB: Awww thank you. I’m HB.
SS:(transition) I bet you get approached all the time during the day.
HB: Actually no not at all.
SS: Oh honey, don’t lie. I bet you have like 5 boyfriends. I can see it in your eyes. You know exactly what you’re doing. You’re gonna give me a ticket so I can be number 6. [modified but credit Soul]
HB: [laughs]
SS: (attraction) Well check this out….I have….8 girlfriends. [stack into 8 girlfriends routine by Brad P]

Then immediatly she asked what my age is. I told her to guess and she said 23 (I’m 20). She said she was 26. So in my mind, I’m thinking that if I was say I’m 20, it might an instant turn-off, so I played along and said I’m 23. A little white lie I guess. After that I qualified her.

SS: (qualifier) So besides shopping and flirting with hot guys at the mall (pointing at myself), what else do you like to do?
HB:…….
….

Then she actually suggested to go shopping with her in the store, so she started the instant date. Now I guess that’s a good thing. But then we were in the store she was like walking around doing her thing and I sometimes followed her around while I was talking. Now I didn’t want to seem needy so sometimes I was just talking to the HG and just looking at girl dresses by myself :P
What should I have done in this case when she walks around in the store? Follow or not?

She started giving me tests and luckily nowadays I recognize them (took my about 3 months in the game before I actually knew that women test men) so now I pass them. Nice.
HB: Do you always approach girls at the mall?
SS: Oh yeah, you’re girl #531 of today.

After she was done I suggested the bounce and go further on the real instant date, as part of my stack.

SS: Hey you seem really cool. I’m actually looking for this specific shirt and you’re gonna help me with it. Let’s go.
HB: Ok

Taking the lead here after I was a bit following her in the store. The rest of the instant date was kind of her trying to take the lead, but everytime I had to make sure we were doing it my ways. Good or not? For example, she was looking for a summer dress so I said “okay lets look for it” while I told her earlier (maybe 15 min ago) that I was looking for a shirt. Is this supplicating?

Throughout the whole instant date, I made sure that she was comfortable and I made her laugh couple of times. I switched up bantering and comfort stories to make sure that she knew who I really was, while I’m funny. For example, we walked into a shoestore and she said she’s very classy so I said to her that we’re gonna get her some stripper shoes. So we go into another store and I say to the HG: “For her, we’re looking for stripper shoes. They have to be crystal clear,” and she punched on the arm. Good! :)

Also, after meeting her 10 min ago and walking around with her, I suggested to get some ice cream. I paid for her ice cream. I would think that this showed some social intuition here and don’t make me look like a cheap guy. Good or not? Now I have to say that this girl is loaded. She lives in a rich part of California, apparantly wears new clothes every day, and shops and buys whatever she wants. Also she parties a lot.

I was being sexual with her about 10 min later in the interaction. I mean, going direct already kinda shows you’re sexual interest, but I wanted to see how it would work out being sexual during the day. I got this from hearing Glenn P on the approachanxiety.com podcast (download here). There he talks about testing girls for sexuality, something I want to experiment with and definitly work on. So for example, when we were shopping for a dress, she bend over and I could see her curves and ass really well. So I just said to her, “Girl, I didn’t know you had booty. I like that” and she laughed at it. Or after she finished her ice cream, she said “I’m not really sweet person, I like more salty stuff,” so my take on it was “Oh….I know what’s salty…” while I look her deeply in her eyes with a slight grin. She punched me. She knew what’s up.

At the last store, she picked up a dress and immediatly went to the cashier.

SS: But honey, you need to fit it first.
HB: I’ve already tried it before.
SS: No, daddy hasn’t seen it and needs to approve it.
HB: You want me to put it on?
SS: Yes

So she changed in there and showed me her sexy dress. I had the urge to jump in the fitting room, she didn’t lock it, but it was right at the front of the entrance and there was a line. If the fitting room was somewhere in the back, I would have gone in and gone wild with her right there…..

So she pays for her own dress and I say I have to meetup with a friend. I #close and tell her I’ll call her tomorrow to set something up.

I’m still not sure yet how solid the number is. Sometimes I had the idea that I was keeping her company while she was just shopping and and wating for her dinner with some guy an hour later (apparently not her BF, maybe some orbiter). I mean, she told me her story and I told her mine. I was bantering, telling her my comfort stories, leading her (she tried a lot to lead me but I had to take the role each time) and being sexual. So I hoped I communicated that I wanted some sort of sexual relationship, because I went sexual with her. I’ll call her and see what’s going on. I have no expectations at all and I see this as an process. This was one of my first real cold approach instant date, so no expectations. But I would love to escalate further of course :)

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So today I did a lot of walking for some day game with Deelucks and Maui (Magic Nuggets still alive!). Whenever I’m out for some day game, I realized I must be out for a good reason other than looking for sets. If you’re just out to “sarge” then you get bored really fast. Instead, now whenever I’m out I’m always shopping or looking for something I need and in the back of my mind I have a goal of how many sets I need to do. This makes day gaming more useful, fun, and not boring.

In any case, we went to the mall first. Now this fall is known for having many HS kids, so sometimes when you approach someone it might just be a “preeb” (that’s what status66 calls them).

Now I only approach girls that I’m really attracted to. I don’t want to waste time with this and that’s why I go direct during the day. After Soul’s (LondonSoul) day game lair talk I had to try out some of his techniques such as his openers and stopping moving sets. At night I might approach 6s and 7s just to be in set, but not during the day. Only hotties get approached.

So at the mall I did 3 sets. First one was a 2set with HS kids I found out later. I actually got CB’ed….damn those girls learn fast.

Second set is a single one, a hottie indeed. I chase and stop her, deliver my direct opener and plant my feet in the ground. DO NOT MOVE when you chase a moving set and stop them. It works and she appreciates my approach but is actually in a hurry. Too bad, I had the BF objection too when I went for the #close.

We walk around more and as we decide the leave and as we were strolling down on the escalator, I see a hottie from afar. I tell Maui I need to get this one. She’s just too HOT to pass by. I jog to her with another girl next to her.

SS: Hi, I noticed you from over there and I had to come over and meet you. Hi, I’m SirSlick.
HB: Awww, that’s so sweet. Hi I’m Brittany. [shake hands]
SS: No way, I had a cat named Brittany. [direct my attention to the other girl] She used to come on my bed and shed a lot. (to target) You don’t shed do you? (credit cat routine to Glenn P)
HB: Haha no…
SS: Good, or else I had to put you on the couch.
[girls laugh]
So how do you guys know each other?
Sister: We’re sisters.

I banter a bit more and the sister is actually way younger, maybe 13-15. So no CB’ing done by her. Now my target is extremely hot. Petite body, huge tits that stick out in her tanktop, and black hair. Probably some latin background. One time she caught me looking at her tits for like 0.00001 seconds. Oh well, I’m a guy :)

After few minutes I go for the #close but I get the BF line. Too bad. I really hated it. Afterwards when Maui and I were on the way to Old Town Pasadena, I kept telling him how she was way to into me. I bet you have it too. You approach a girl and she is immediatly all over you. Then along the way you basicly screw up and then it’s all gone. Well that happened to me. Also, because I put value on her beauty (damn man, she was hot and those titties just needed to be sucked on) I put more value on the set, hence the regret.

So me and Maui head out to old Town Pasadena and say goodbye to Deelucks. We get out of the parking lot waiting to cross the street. I see a hot blonde and wait for her to cross and pass me. She passes me and I chase. But damn she was fast so I actually had to jog to catchup. I stop her but she was shocked when I touched her. I try to recover and deliver my direct opener. She likes it but apparantly has a BF and is in a rush. Too bad. Next.

I’m at the bookstore and see this cute Japanese girl. Here we go.

SS: Hi, I noticed you from over there and I had to say you’re so cute. I had to come over and meet you.
HB: Haha thank you.
SS: Wait, what’s that accent? You’re Japanese aren’t you?
HB: Yes, I came here two months ago.

She is also an international student but goes to a different college. Then I’m off in building rapport and making her laugh. I go for the #close about 2 minutes in and get all the confirmation (we call each other). I pretend to leave but I hook her again with an observation. I actually did this unconsciously. I’m used to doing this at the club (to trigger the fear of loss switch), so I’m happy it’s internalized. We built some more rapport for like 10 minutes and I make the number solid. I will try to get a date with this girl.

I could have taken this set further by moving her around. I need to remember myself doing this.

Then I see a redhead about to cross and I tell Maui to get her, since he likes redheads. He gets anxiety so I chase her. I stop her and she really liked the approach. Damn, direct game during the day really is the shit. Soul, you’re right. They never get approached during the day and that’s why they appreciate that a lot more.

SS: Hi, I saw you crossing and I said to myself, “I need to meet her” because you’re absolutely gorgeous.
HB: Aww thank you. That’s nice of you.
SS: I bet when you walked out of the door looking that sexy that some cute Vietnamese guy approach you and talk you up.
HB: Haha no, I never approached that much. That’s so brave of you.
SS: Well thank you. So besides flirting with guys and shopping here, what else do you do?

And off we go in rapport. I start to mess up big time by not really leading the conversation and too much fluff talk. Also, I should moved her aside from the sidewalk to get compliance and people won’t run into her. Next time.

Overall I’m happy with my day game progress. I try to do both club and day game. I love day game because it’s way easier. Also, I’m more of a rapport guy (not an attraction guy) so day game is perfect. Also the girls are higher caliber, you get what you see. Now I just need to hone my skills more so I don’t mess up sets that are good sets. I need to move the girls more and have some good short and funny stories right away to fire off. Maybe a little day game stack for like the first 3 minutes and then move her so I can ground with my theREDstack. Good stuff coming up!!!

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State of Mind
Just go out and work on my mission. There was no absolutely outcome independence. Just do my thing, have faith in my missions and goals that will advance my skillset. This gave me a laidback mood. Also I went back to the gym in like 2,5 months (I was traveling) so it felt good.

Goal of the Night
GOAL: Get over AA and social anxiety by pushing the limits.
1. Open 10 sets (four mixed sets, two 4+ sets).
2. Exercise: Use “is she always like this?” in every set.
3. Exercise: Open a group on the dancefloor (2x).
4. Exercise: Go SUPER direct on HB9 or HB10: “You are….fucking….sexy, Hi I’m..” (2x).
5. Exercise: Practise theREDstack “Non-judgmental #1″.

Progress of My Goal
On thursday, I did 9 sets (4 mixed sets, 1 4+sets) so I didn’t fully complete that point. The others I did complete.

On Friday I only did 3 sets because there was a limited time (only 1 hr) so that’s valid.

Best Sets of the Night
On thursday pretty much almost every set hooked. Opening and transitioning was strong, but after 10 minutes the sets would die. No problem, those are the things I will be working on in the future missions, that’s why I have faith in my missions!

Going direct worked really well. One time I got the boyfriend objection but I just plowed thru that wall and started to get interest from her. But then again the set would die after like 10 minutes.

I can’t remember much more from that night. However, one of the things I’ve realized is how far I’ve come in terms of inner game. The venue was really small, so it’s easy to wreck the room. In the past, I was afraid of doing that. I would be thinking, “What if that girl I’ve approached before, sees me opening another set with the same opener?” Stuff like that would go through my mind. Couple days ago at the venue, the same things started to pop-up. First 30 min I was thinking and in my head. Then I killed that voiced and I said to myself, “lets wreck the room”. The whole night I opened not caring what other people thought of me and it made me realize I’m past the point now of not being afraid of what others think of me. This will get me far in the near future.

On Friday, I missed out big time. I opened this 2set of Japanese girl, way too cute not to be opened. I work the set, one being extremely drunk and the other was in a good party mood. After 5 minutes or so I figure out the logistics. They live 2 streets away from the venue. DING DONG. I suggest to have an afterparty at their place and they’re down. Few minutes later this drunk guy comes in and tries to get some. I just learned some AMOG tactics from Brad P so I immediatly apply it, it works. However, that guy just keeps talking loud and the girls start to get uncomfortable.

Then I make a crucial mistake. I start to address the guy and then the girls walk off to the bathroom. I lose the girls. Also, I didn’t #close one of them, so in case I did lose them I could always call them. Then I start looking for the girls but they were nowhere to be foud. I missed out.

In short, #close when the bounce is set, keep working the set, if AMOG comes in, move the girls away. Lesson learned.

Worst Sets of the Night
Some blowouts I can’t remember.

Sticking Points
Most sets die after a certain time. Either my subcommunications are wrong or something else is wrong. I need to keep spiking BT after a certain time.

Goals for Next Time
Keep working on my missions and see the fruition of my inner game.

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FR

I’ve been reading plenty of pickup blogs lately and one of them is eSeduce by Mack Tight. I first encountered it when I saw that one of my videos was put up there and ever since it’s on my RSS reader. He has some interesting views on a wide variety of topics, so check it out sometime!

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State of Mind
I’m in a very happy mood lately. Everything is going well in my personal life and that reflects my state in the field.

After the meeting with my wings Watanabe calls me and wants to go out with me. I’m down and I met up with him at the club.

I was fearless the whole night. No form of AA at all, not even a drop. It felt good.

Goals of the Night
1. Open 10 sets / night (two mixed set, two 4+ set)
2. Seafood girl opener
3. Field test “Universal Chode” routine.
4. Practise theREDstack “Grounding #1″, “Sexual Frame #1″, and “DHV #1″.

Progress of My Goal
1. DONE
2. DONE
3. NO
4. I ran it twice that night, not enough to really internalize it completely so I can have good delivery. I will need to practise this more.

I still need to field test my new routine. Remind me ;)

Break down
Hustler girl
Before we were at the club, we were waiting at an elevator. Then this Hustler girl, I think she might have been a gogo dancer, walks by and for a moment everyone freezes. I break the bubble and start talking:

SS: Do you like horses?
HB: Eurhm…yeah I guess
SS: Ok check this out. When I was in 6th grade, this girl would always bring seafood to school in a paper brown bag…and eurhm….she would ride horses on the playground.

Obviously I mixed up the horse girl and seafood girl opener. Too funny. The elevator doors open and we all go in. Dee and Maui can’t stop laughing and it creates some fun tension between me and the girl. It cranked us all up!

-What was good?
I opened the girl. I didn’t freeze and at least started a conversation. No AA.

-What was bad?
Messed up the delivery and didn’t continue talking to her in the elevator.

-Where did I lose the set?
The punchline wasn’t good so no hooking.

-How could I have taken it further?
I should kept talking to her and just go direct to get the number.

Seated 2set
At the club I sent in Watanabe, who I met the first time, into a seated 2set far in the corner. For such an approach, you have to go direct. 30 seconds later I’m going in and wing him. We both have our girls isolated and my girl is actually cute. Nice. 20-25 minutes later I go for the e-mail and number. Stay another 5 minutes and ejected. For some reason I still felt it wasn’t a super solid number. Plenty of comfort (no good logistics for pull), spur of attraction but weak attraction and qualification though.

-What was good?
Good winging, I made sure Watanabe would have enough time to do his thing.

-What was bad?
No sexual framing it all, moving the set to get full isolation, and limited kino.

-Where did I lose the set?
Probably somewhere after 15 minutes. I could no sexual tension and too much comfort building while having very little attraction.

-How could I have taken it further?
I should have gone more risky by telling her to come with me and dance or whatever to get full isolation.

Hottest girl
I approached the hottest girl in the club with an direct opener in front of her 4 friends. She loved it but then I started to mess up because everyone was waiting for me to leave (we were late). I love direct, especially when you look deep into the girl’s eyes, pause your delivery, and project that sexual vibe. Money.

-What was good?
Opening was very strong and good. Good delivery of the direct line with pauses, hand on the shoulder, confident walk, low tonality, and deep eye contact. So much was going on before and during the opening.

-What was bad?
No form of continuation and I was on a real time constrain, so I didn’t work it enough.

-Where did I lose the set?
When I was done with the opener and just looked at her deeply.

-How could I have taken it further?
Continue the conversation for just a little bit and then just go for the number.

Worst Sets of the Night
There were some blowouts on the dancefloor but that didn’t affect me one bit. I had fun. Plenty of moving sets blew me out, no problem.

2set blondes
I opened this 2set of hot blondes and I ignored the obstacle. I could see she got bored while my target was entertained. Then this guy, who I vagelue know as a regular there, comes in and starts talking and hugging me. Basicly he blew me out and I lost the set. In the past, I would have hated that guy, but now I don’t care. Proof my inner game has improved.

Sticking Points
I really like the seafood girl opener. It has many things built in and that’s why I like Brad P’s shocker openers. It still needs better delivery though, towards the end of the night it got better.

More attraction during mid game. I need to keep cycling attraction, I forget that a lot, so my sets are really flat as time progresses. Sometimes I pump it again but I don’t do it enough.

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It was the day my 3-month program started. I was out with Maui who I haven’t seen in a long while and for both of us it was our first night out in two months. Also I saw neocorp again and that guy has some good shit going on.

Since I was with friends the whole day, I forgot to prepare my material for the night so everything was very loose. What I’ve noticed is that the secretary opener isn’t congruent with me and was poorly delivered too. For the reason of incongruence, I’m going to freeze this opener for the moment. I kind of knew it wasn’t very congruent, due to my age, but I wanted it to find it out for sure by field testing it. The field never lies.

Then I forgot to field test my universal chode routine. Not once did I run it, so I need to remind myself of doing it.

On to the sets. I forgot the count of sets and so I didn’t completely do the goal of # sets and types of sets I needed to do (forgot to prepare!). So it was all a blur.

I got blown out couple of times. One time there was this one girl walking towards me and I stop her by putting my hand on the shoulder and go “Who the FUCK are you?” with almost an angry delivery. She started testing me but I couldn’t hear her so I left.

Then I see this ADD girl dancing and go thumbwrestle her, I win, and drag her to the bar all within 10 seconds. I do some moves with her and she starts to grind me and all we said was our names. I feel that she’s a bad dancer so I push her off and she left. Hmm, calibration needed there.

This 2set of black sisters are near the dancefloor so it’s really loud. I go direct with great slow delivery, “You are….sooooo….fucking….adorable…” as my hand is on her shoulder with deep eye contact and she cranks up. It’s on. I work her sister and try solo winging tactics, if she tries to cock block me I call her out on it. They tell me they’re sisters and I cold read. Attraction is done. Everyone around me is looking at me, I feel weirded out for some reason. They saw me approach 2 hotties and they’re following every step. I start to kino my target more and twirl her, as I’m feeling the heat of the people watching. As I twirl her, “Alright, you’re losing me”, playful push and just walk off. I turn my head around and everyone is in awe, “WTF?!”. Priceless. The power of willingness to walk away. Next time I should work on some form of continuation.

Maui is forming AA and I help him out on it by saying random shit. Randomly I just go saying shit like “Happy birthday” to people and just vibe. I tell Maui that he needs to go super direct on one girl tonight, to step out of his comfort zone and he did.

Nothing more memorable stuff happened. It was really about feeling what is like again to be out in the field while focussing on working on my game. Last couple of months I’ve been going out just to have fun with friends and that has been upping my game for sure. Last night I felt like I could have opened more moving sets. Even though they’re hard in clubs, just do it.

Tonight is another night of missions!

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FR

I just got home in LA. This weekend I’ll be catching up with my wings and we’ll share some awesome stories with each other. Some of them got laid! Also I’ll be meeting some new people from the community over the next couple of weeks to exhange ideas and help each other infield.

Another news fact: I’ll be visiting the Love Systems HQ tomorrow and have a talk with Savoy. I can’t tell you guys yet what it is about ;)

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I’m online a lot on pickup boards, because I like to keep up with what’s going on in the ’scene’. So I read a lot of blogs, forums, and other material. However, the proportion is getting out of hand when I realize how much time I spent online. Partly, it’s blamed due to my work. I have to work on my computer and since it’s so easy to check the boards when you’re on your break, I have to find some sort of solution to this.

I want to follow Brad P’s Golden Rule of Pickup: for every hour you study, you go out two hours in the field.
So lets calculate something:
Nights/week: 3
Hours/night: 3
Total hrs infield: 3 * 3 = 9.
That would mean I can spend only maximum 4,5 hours of studying per week. I will keep up with reading RSS feeds every day. However I will change my RSS feeds.

Now, my RSS reader is full of ONLY pickup blogs. So everytime I fire my reader, all I see is pickup material. Not so good, I need to balance it out. Like the last couple of months all my (free) time was devoted to pickup. No wonder things went downhill on other parts of my life. So I’m going to add some other RSS feeds that I’m interested in, such as business news, global news, and everything else I might be interested in.

Since my pickup calendar is done for the next three months, I know what to do and what to focus on. So that will definitly help me save time in studying, simple because I know what to focus on.

Also, I’m going to limit the amount of boards I’m going to follow. These are the ones you can find me on post regularly:

Love Systems Attraction Forums and Lounge (invite only)
PUA Sanctuary Forum and Lounge (invite only)
Socal Lair
Casanova Crew

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The calendar is finally done! You can find it here or on my blog. I’m not going to change it anymore for the next 3 months. It is as it is. It really focusses on my attraction game and after 3 months I should be able to CONSTANTLY attract every (type) girl. Also, by setting up a scheme I want to work on my calibration. By knowing what I need to do every night infield, I’m not outcome dependent, don’t waste time infield, and sharpen my calibration for specific parts of my game (attraction). The game is starting one week from now. YEAH BABY!

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