Social Pancake – Blooming for Success

Friday 9/27/08

After work me and Maui went a venue that I really don’t like. I really don’t like it there anymore. But I decided to go because that’s the only place Maui can go (18+ club) so I went to keep him company and to catchup.

Well…..We came there around 10 and left around midnight. We put in money to do at least 6 sets and then leave. Really, the venue was dead. Also, only ugly get in there. Seriously. Never. Going. Back. Again. No. Exceptions.

What I’ve learned is that you will “do” better at venues you like. It does affect your mindset and state. So from now on, I’m only going to venues I like.

Saturday 9/28/08
Me, Maui, Rince, Deelucks, and Streetwisekeen meet up at my place and we all catchup at a Vietnamese restaurant. Great and cheap food with some awesome guys :)

Then we headed out to the galleria and americana for some intensive day game. I actually spent the first 2 hours helping Rince getting a new outfit. He needed some drastic changes to his wardrobe so I gave him some ideas. After he and I met up with the other guys, they went shopping at some girl store and I took off by myself to get some sets done.

Nothing spectacular happened, but I’ll write out what I can remember.

Blowout: Three set of hot girls. While I’m daydreaming and drinking my jamba juice they pop out of nowhere. My instinct says “dooooo something!!!!!!!” so the first the thing that popped up was.

SS: You guys… stop right now. You all look gorgeous.
HB1: Thanks

And they wander off. My tonality was way off and my body language. Damn jamba juice! :)

Best set was probably my first set, in the H&M store. I’m looking at a shirt and I see this cute asian girl walk by. We make eye contact and she walks off. I think to myself, I need to approach and so I do.

SS: Hi. I noticed you from over there, and I think you’re really cute. Hi I’m SirSlick.
HB: Hi I’m [forgot] [we shake hands]

Then I just start vibing, something I’m getting decent at. I remember when I first started out I couldn’t vibe at all, but now I rarely get the “I ran out of things” to say. So that was good. I made sure I qualified her based on other stuff than her looks and building rapport was easy with this girl. Every time I would make statement or ask her something, she would give me something to work with so I could vibe. I tried to go for the instant date but she was with her sister, so instead I go for the number.

5 minutes in I go for the #close and I get the BF line. I really wonder what is up with this. I get this a lot. I approach and open strong, never get the BF line. But then I go for the #close, and it happens a lot. Now I don’t even bother to plow, but maybe I should.

Another girl was a moving set, some Armenian girl. I stopped her and she was body rocking. I plant my feet and am solid as a rock. It works. She stays around. We talk about 3 minutes and I could tell she was just being polite and wasn’t interested. Good.

Another HOT girl was in the store I had my first instant date with few weeks earlier. I contemplate to go in because I wasn’t sure she was cute enough, but SWK told me just to go and so I did. Turns out to be an absolutely gorgeous girl and exactly my type. Same thing happens, open strong, and then I go for the instant date I get the BF line. Why?! Why?! Why???!!! Why me?!!!

Oh yes, she threw me an age-test that I ignored (she’s 26). I’m not sure if that had a good effect. I couldn’t come up with a comback so I decided to ignore it.

Oh yes, the girls working at Mark Ecko look like they’re about to go to a club. They all dress super sexy, showing off their cleavage and legs. It’s not normal, they look hot and sexy in the day time. Too bad I was too much focused on helping Rince with his outfit or they would have been victim of my galore! :)

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Last night was my first night solo gaming at night, and let me tell you it was a great experience. The only time I went solo was at the Super Conference but that was less solo as I was walking to the venue first with some guys and they later split up. Also I don’t count day game solo because then I’m actually using my time to do sets + other useful stuff at the same time.

I’m so used to go with wings that it’s something I need to have or else I wouldn’t go out. Like in the past, if none of my wings went out, then so didn’t I. Even though this rarely happened, it did happen couple of times. Today I go out with people that aren’t necessarily my wings, so that was a step forward for me. Now it was time to go solo for real. There is no one I know that I’m going to meet and everything was in my ballpark.

So I went to Pasadena and explored the nightlife there. I’ve been to Pasadena only a couple of times, even though it’s closer to my house than Hollywood, I’m still more in Hollywood for the clubs. But this time I decided to go solo to bars in an area close to me. Just going solo was stepping out of my comfort zone, something I haven’t done in a long time. My goal was simple, get 8 approaches done and after that I could go home.

I get early at a bar and it’s full of guys watching a college football game. The night is still young and I sit around to observe a bit. I split and start wandering going from bar to bar. Anxiety starts to come up and it feels really weird. I know I’m not going to die from talking to girls, but there’s something that withholds me. I get at this bar, take a seat, and grab some water. I literally sit there for an hour on my phone. There were some sets in there, not much, but I noticed I felt really uncomfortable. I even called D (wing) and told him I was pussying out. I felt really uncomfortable, and that was the moment I realized I was growing some balls. After an hour choding I go to the bathroom and talk to the security guy. Going to the bathroom is like reset button for me and then I started talking to the first person I saw, the security guy. I get a little bit in a talkative state and I see an easy single set at the bar.

I open indirect and take a seat. Whenever I see a woman at the bar or club alone, I automatically assume she’s out to get laid, so I try not to mess up. I’m not warmed up yet so I really stumble a lot and just fuck up in general. She’s forgiving for my mistakes and I start to tease a little bit too much. She was way older than me, maybe beginning 30s, but I don’t care. Eventually I did most of the talking and she said I was very wise and interesting for someone my age. Yeah, sounds good but I want to take it sexual. SP right there. Also my escalation was rejected every time. I start touching more but it’s very different when you’re both at the bar locked in. Also I tried to bounce her to a more quiet place after she said it’s too loud for our conversation. No go. Then I start to use her for social proof and we part ways.

Then I start to feel normal again and I’m not in my head anymore. I start approaching girls and I’m getting my groove on. Pretty much I was being a good conversationalist and didn’t really run any routines. I was too much worried about getting approaches done. One step at time. I did my 8 approaches and called it a night. Before I left, I made sure I approached the hottest girl in the venue, and yes I did. Absolutely hot girl, blond, fit, big tits, and a short orange cocktail dress. I couldn’t ask for more. There’s like 10 guys surrounding her, all too scared to approach and start a conversation. Fuck man, I was scared too with everyone around her. But what the hell, I need to approach the hottest girl in the place. MUST. It’s loud near the dance floor so I go super direct.

SS: You…are…soooo….damn….SEXY…..Hi I’m SirSlick
HB: Hi I’m Jennifer
[twirl her]

I sit down and motion her to sit down and she doesn’t. She’s still on her phone texting or whatever (she was doing that before I approached). Of course I could have waited for her to get stuff done, but I’ve learned to take initiative and that I have to make things happen. I shouldn’t wait for a better opportunity, just go for it. I get cock blocked because her friend came out of nowhere and dragged her away. I didn’t even bother working the obstacle, I was happy I did the approach. Step by step. I’m sure that in the near future I have that contingency handled.

Honestly, going solo was really scary. But by having a simple mission of approaching 8 girls, it made things definitely easier. I already said to myself that I would do them, no matter what. The first hour in the bar was hell. It was really uncomfortable, something I haven’t felt in a really long time. Really long time. But after last night I can see why some people love going solo. It’s a liberating feeling that you don’t have to rely on other people to go out, like I used to. Now whenever I know I’ll have to solo, I have the ability to do that.

What I should have done was as soon I walk in the venue, open the first set I see and keep moving around and talking. Not order a drink first because that totally killed my state.

Also I think I can use my time now more efficient by going out more during the weekdays when I can’t sleep or whatever, I’ll just head out to a bar for maybe an hour or two. I’m going to be a monster.

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State of Mind
I haven’t been out in two weeks. Last week I was sick and lately my career has been taking off. The latter is a good thing and it’s something that makes me very happy. With that in mind, I didn’t want to think that next time I was going out, that I would be “rusty”. It didn’t come up.

Goals of the Night
GOAL: Start roleplaying and keep spiking BT.
1. Open 8 sets / night (two mixed sets, two 4+sets)
2. Exercise: Use “Ass slap” routine in every set.
3. Exercise: Use “You’re such a dork…I’m getting you one of those hats with a propeller on it.” in every set.
4. Exercise: Practise theREDstack “Grounding #2″ again.

Progress of My Goal
I came out by myself and then I saw Quick and Ozzie. I got out on the patio and there were plenty of sets. Then AA kicks in. Really bad. I hadn’t felt something like that before in a loooooong time. It was really weird. In my mind I knew that I wouldn’t die from approaching girls, but it felt weird. It took me like an hour to get over it and seeing JTR opening some sets. Also that day I was at home the whole day working on school and behind the computer, so I was not socializing at all. That gave me a huge disadvantage before I even arrived at the venue. I think it’s partly for that, that it took me a while to get back on track.

1. CHECK
2. NOPE
3. NOPE
4. NOPE

I acutally totally forgot about the missions. I just had the feeling that it was good being back infield again and getting over that AA. That night I really had no super solid interactions, except when I was winging JTR. I mostly went direct that night after seeing SC the night before, just to get me pumped up.

I consider this week another week of mission missed, so now I have to redo mission 4,5, and 6.

Best Sets of the Night
Honestly, I can’t remember. I didn’t have any super good sets. Only set I can really remember was when I was winging JTR and we both got isolated right off the bat.
-What was good?
Immediatly got isolation. Also I started sexualizing the conversation by telling the girl how women can have 4 orgasms and showing it with my fist. She was really into it. Also disqualifying myself was money, and she was becoming attracted to me while I kept pushing her away.

Also body language positiong was good, I kept rotating so she couldn’t see her friend so that JTR could do his thing.

-What was bad?
Probably the kino, more and escalate.

-Where did I lose the set?
Ran out of things to say, so I started saying random things. It was too funny :)
This is also a sign of not being the moment.

-How could I have taken it further?
Moving my girl away and then kino escalating.

Worst Sets of the Night
I did this 3-set of 1 gay guy and two girls. So I come in with the DTR opener and the gay guy is immediatly offended. He asks me a question and I can’t hear him so he says “never mind”. BAM, dead silence that immediatly killed my set.

I also has this 20-min go nowhere set. It was a 3 set, open fine, transition fine, and off into more attraction. The guy and one girl were together and this girl was single. And then it went nowhere. I didn’t go for the isolation, I didn’t even try, because the guy-girl was there. I SHOULD GO FOR IT NEXT TIME.

Sticking Points
Kino escalation, moving girls. Being more higher energy.
No more dead silences.

Goals for Next Time
More kino and moving girls. Attraction was pretty decent. Qualification decent, but could definitly be better. More sexual framing.

Overall, below average night. But Vanguard is a nice place. Big patio and lots of people. It was good being out again. I’m going to be really busy with me new job but I have to keep going out.

Also I’m planning do some sort of 30-day challenge to go out 30 days straight. But we’ll see.

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So I’m officially sick. Here I am on a Saturday night in my bed blogging how sick I am. It’s so unfortunate, because now I haven’t been out for 2 weeks. I will have to catch up with my missions another time AGAIN.

Anything new? Well, in January 2009 I will start working fulltime for a company at the marketing department. It’s a “well-known” company and I’m really excited. It’s actually the first time I will be an employee, because I always had my own business. But I see this as an unique opportunity to work with some amazing people (readers of my blog will definitly know the company and its people, but I can’t reveal it yet). At night I will attend classes for half a year and then I’ll stop going to school for about half a year because I will have enough credits to transfer to another university.

Oh yes, I’m attending this anthropology class. It’s super interesting, take it. It talks a lot about Darwinism and how mating works. Super interesting for people who study game :)

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BUSY!!!! Yeah I’m busy again. School started this week and I’m taking this Accounting 2 class. But I took Accounting 1 exactly 2 years ago, so I forgot everything. Now I need to catchup FAST. Which means this weekend I won’t be going out. I’ll have to skip this week’s missions and do them some other time.

On another note, I’ll be attending the Love Systems Super Conference in about a month from now. Catch me there! I’m super excited about this one. I was at the last super conference (read my review here) and it was awesome. Now that I have more infield experience, I hope to get more out of it this time.

I have some other updates, but I will post these as these things get more final.

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