Social Pancake – Blooming for Success

I haven’t written one of these things in a while. Too busy with school and work. Also I’m dating a girl right now that has kept me busy from going out. So I wake up at around 9am after going to bed around 2am for finishing up some work. Maui calls me and asks when I’m ready: “Dude I just woke up but I’ll be ready in an hour.” My week goes on sleeping on less than 7 hours each day. Urgh…..

So we start day gaming at 11am in the morning, after having some lunch at a nice Chinese restaurant. We walk around the parade area to look for the pageants of Chinatown. I see them but I was surprised to see them. They were just plain or pretty girls, not really hot or sexy. Don’t get me wrong, these girls were pretty. But just not that “hot”. But I guess that is the same for most pageant girls.

Then I see a reporter and she’s a 10. She’s doing some interviews and I wonder when the best time is to approach and then I lose her out of sight. Too bad. NOTE TO SELF: Pay attention. Then I approached a pageant girl and we talked in a group for about 5 minutes. But it wasn’t really ON and I spent majority of the time working the obstacles. Then I get that feeling of “it’s not that on and they are now just polite” so I just left. It could also be a miscalibration of my part but I’m not really a plower. Also I didn’t warm up that morning so I was a bit stiff starting off. Overall, that pageant and parade area wasn’t that successful. So we head out to the mall and get some real work done.

I let a lot of sets pass in the day time because I’m only looking for super hot girls to approach. So me and Maui decided to take turns pointing out girls for the other guy to approach. If he doesn’t approach, he owed $1 to the wing. That’s a great way to push each other to open sets. We’ve both paid $0 and I gave Maui some cool sets (mom&daughter, milfs, and so on) ;) (totally outside of his comfort zone)

I get some blowouts on the opening (I go direct). Some girls just looked at me and walked on. LOL. Then Maui points this single girl.

SS: Hi. I know this is very forward of me…but you are absolutely…gorgeous.

She blushes and we introduce each other. I do the usual querying on logistics and getting to know her a bit with cold reads. Basicly doing some reward and relate stuff. What I should have done was to test for compliance, like moving a bit and see how she responds. I didn’t do any of that so when I tried to go for the instant date she wouldn’t go. I didn’t test for compliance, didn’t build any momentum, and wasn’t selling it. It was on, but not that ON. Not good.

Next good set was a mom & daughter set in a shoe store. I said I noticed her and do the same opener on her. I wanted to field test the part of “this is very forward of me” and being that romantic guy who never does this ;)

SS: Hi [big smile]
HB: Hi.
SS: Hi…eurhm…I know this is very forward of me…but I just noticed you…and I think you…are absolutely…gorgeous. [... denote pauses]
HB: Oh thank you. What’s your name?
SS: I’m SS.
HB: I’m HB.
SS: How are you today?

Every time I ask her a question, I basicly try to gauge how receptive she is. In this case she was very receptive saying how she is taking her mom out for shopping. Her mom was a few feet away trying on shoes and she couldn’t really hear us, so this situation was a bit on the lower end of the pressure spectrum (meaning you can escalate and be more direct). I figured since the mom was there, a #close would be the best thing to get. I do the same ying yang, vibing, cold reads, reward&relate. Plenty of comfort game for about 10-15 minutes.

I test a bit for compliance by shifting my body language to see how she responds. I do something like a roll off and I see she is moving her body forward, so she’s good. I go for the #close and that was easy. As I’m about to head out, she asks me what nationality I am so she baits me back in again. This was also a sign that I didn’t do any grounding. Then I do some more grounding and we share childhood stories.

Then I notice her crossing her arms so she’s closing her BL. I knew something was off, but I can’t remember anymore what I’ve said. It was something on traveling. So about 15m after I left I sent her a text: “Hey HB, do you speak text? :) SS.” and no response yet. So I might have to plow over text.

Then another good set was when I was getting AIs. I came out the fitting room and I see two girls wearing the same outfit, pink tshirt and black pants. I look at both of them as I walk by and they both look at me smiling. I was like, “hmmm interesting.” I ask for Maui if he thinks if these girls are in high school. He says no. I still doubt. Then I see them shopping for guy clothes. I’m starting to get too much in my head. Then I decided to go.

SS: You look really dangerous with that belt in your hand.
HB1: Huh? What? [confused]
HB2: Hey I need your help.

At this point HB2 is trying to catch the attention of my target so I have to intervene.

SS: Hey, don’t you agree that you’re friend here is adorable.
HB2: Haha yes.
SS: I just saw her and she’s just too adorable. So I had to come over and meet her.

And HB2 is disarmed as she leaves us alone to get some vibing going on. I do the same pattern: cold reads, vibing, but this time I forgot logistics. What I should have done was get Maui in and let him game the other girl, and then try to bounce both girls out of the store for something. It just didn’t pop-up. We actually never game together 2sets, both of us do solo day game. I should have moved her around the store and then #close, but I just went straight to the phone number. As I #close, my phone is not working. Great. I reboot my phone and she’s still on. Good. As I get her number, in my mind I hear this voice “CALLBACK HUMOR”. This is still something I need to implement and seed in my day game interactions. So I immediatly tell her my name if I was born as a girl and I assign her a name because she didn’t know her boyname. I call her by her boyname and we part ways. That’s when I realized I could have done a lot more on logistics and bouncing. Oh well. I send her the same text and she’s warm. Good.

So I burned a lot of calories walking around. I got blown out a lot more than usual too, which was very weird. Not sure why. And then when I did get the girl to be receptive from the start, I didn’t fully do everything I could. Next couple of days I have do some more sets to prepare for the day game workshop. Today just reminded me that I still need to re-work my comfort game because I’ve been solely focusing on my attraction game last couple of weeks. Now I’m working on my qualification game which is getting pretty tight. Daddy is happy.

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It’s 1AM Wednesday morning and I can’t sleep. I listen to some Hyori Lee music I can’t understand, but she’s so cute that I bear with it. So I decide to think about pickup. What a surprise! But the thing is lately I haven’t been thinking about it too much. Lately I’ve been setting up a plan to get some passive income this year and of course school and my job.

I’m affiliate manager now and it’s my job to increase the affiliate sales this year. I’m very enthusiastic about it that I will make it KILLER this year. Mark my words. Enough positive visualizations for now, I’ve been doing them a little too much! But it works though :)

Anyway, that’s not what this post is about. Next month, actually starting on Jan 31, I’m going to go solo for the whole month. That means going out alone to bars, clubs, malls, whatever. I feel like I need to stretch my comfort zone that I’ve been hiding in for the last couple of weeks. I’ve done it in the past, but I had to barrel through it and I did not have fun doing it. But I want to learn to have fun by myself and have fun with interacting with strangers. It will make me a more social and likeable person. Also it will expose me to some of the fears I have of going alone. Also I don’t want to depend on my wings to able to have fun. I need to learn to have fun by MYSELF. For handling sets and so on, I don’t NEED a wing. I want a wing, but I don’t need it.

This doesn’t mean that I’ll be ditching my friends or wings the whole month. But whenever I go out I’ll try to go by myself. That means, from the moment leaving my house to the venue. Not BS like going out with wings and then split up at the venue, that’s cheating.

I’ll be doing both club game and day game. I definitely want to go to venues I’ve never been before to exposre myself even more. I know that in new venues, in with friends and wings, I always want to feel out the crowd and venue. But if I go alone, it should expose more of my fears and limited beliefs I have.

So it will be interesting :)

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Pfoe…..I did some day game yesterday. And I didn’t go out at night to some bar or club. After the bootcamp of last week, I was pretty much tired. I didn’t feel like going out to some loud venue and driving to Hollywood, so I decided to hang out with some friends over food and movies both friday and saturday night. My social circle is still alive and kicking, although everyone in it knows I’m very busy. That reminds me I need to start capitalize on some of the girls in there. 3-4 girls are ready to go, but I’m just so busy that I didn’t have the time to set something up and get it going on. For some strange reason, they keep hanging around every time I’m super busy and never show up for their parties, meetings, or whatever. But I really have to start fucking them one by one while I can.

Every since working for Love Systems I’ve been working my ass of there. I have my own stuff going on there and do my job there, but then I also help out at bootcamps whenever I can. Combine this with school and you got yourself a busy guy! But that’s good though. Ever since I got rid my TV, I free’d a lot of time for more useful things. I occasionally watch TV, on my laptop, and the shows I miss now are being downloaded the next day. That way I allocate my time really efficient.

So career-wise it’s booming for me. After like 4 months working there I got promoted. It’s funny how I hear around me how some people got laid off or don’t have a job because of the economy. Man, for me it’s the total opposite. I’ve worked my ass off and I got rewarded, not in cash, more than I could expect. Right now my focus is my career, which is working out very well. I realized that becoming a high value guy is hard work. I cannot see myself as someone who is broke and has a shitty lifestyle to be banging hot girls. I do not want to end up like I Am The Future ;) Also now that I have the opportunity to grow, I have to grab it with both hands. So pickup is a little bit on the slow burner right now for me. I will be keeping going out, but my main focus now is getting my career in perfect shape.

It’s funny how this is reflected in my sets. Now I talk about my career the whole time, how I love my job, and the bright future I see ahead of me. Girls are loving it when they see I have that passion. Although saying that you want to become a dating coach is a bad idea though. I had to find out the hard way, so now I’m framing it as a public speaker or life coach. I get better reactions with life coach though.

Day game yesterday wasn’t that great. I didn’t do it for a while and I didn’t prepare anything to work on. It resulted in lots of opening and bit of attraction, but the rest was very stale. I need to prepare my stuff before going out again. Right now I want to focus on my day game. I don’t feel like going out at night with me being so busy so I’d rather do my approaches whenever I need to be out of the house. Even though one might be really busy, that’s not an excuse to not do any approaches.

So right now life is looking good :) I feel a lot better with everything in place. Now I just need to hit the gym too and get a new harem of dates with day game.

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We’re already 3 weeks in 2009 but I still needed to post a rant. I put up some Kylie Minogue music and here we go….. So today is MLK day and my day off which I really needed. I just finished a bootcamp with Braddock and The Don and it was fun! I’ve helped out at two bootcamps and I always learn new things from the students, instructors, and myself. The more I do this, the more I find out I really want to become an instructor and help others out on improving their game.

Another thing is me racking up some same night lays. I’m damn close to consistently pulling girls out of the venue now. I’ve been practicing a lot on my attraction game and that has made my pickups so much better that I could move and bounce girls out of the venue pretty consistent. So now that I can get girls to bounce out of the venue, the next logical step is work out the logistics to the lay. That’s going to be my focus now. Right now I’m a lot more aggressive and assertive in set which led to faster escalation. My touching is more sensual and sexual, but also girls now realize that I’m a sexual threat when they talk to me. These were sticking points on my bootcamp in Oct 08 and slowly I’m crushing these. I mean I always was escalating both physically and verbally (not logistically) but it was very slow and gradual. Now it’s a lot faster and riskier. I’ve lost plenty of sets lately because I was too aggressive, but it’s better to lose girls by being to aggressive than being to passive.

Okay my attraction, state and intrigue based, is pretty good now. Now I need to work on my qualification. Plenty of girls have giving me infield feedback which screamed “you didn’t qualify me so I’m saying this” but because I was solely working on attraction I’ve lost a lot of girls like that. So I’m going to put a game plan into action on this very seriously.

Other than that, nothing is new. Oh yeah one more thing. For the Magic Nuggets we setup a competition for Valentine’s day. The one(s) who do not have a date ON valentine’s day will have to go out 7 days in a row (each time at least 2 hrs). The ones who do have a date, just need to have a good time :)

So that means I’m more likely to do some day game. Also Soul is coming to LA in 3 weeks to do a day game workshop, which I’m attending, so I definitely want to hit some sticking points before I attend and of course for Valentines day.

I’m sort of seeing this one girl I met a while back. We went on a date, which was to me horrible because it was a dinner date (long story short, I fucked up setting up the date) but she loved the conversation. All in all, she wants to see me again some time. I’m already in the “potential BF” category so I need to work around that. But we’ll see where it goes from there.

Over and out!

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After writing this, it turned out to be a mix or rant, observations, epiphanies, and such. LONG READ. WARNING!
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So yesterday I went out with some non-community friends. To be short, I had a great time. Going out with social circle is fun and also a great way to meet new people. Don’t get me wrong, I love doing cold approaches, but I’m getting to the point again where going to clubs with community friends is getting a bit bored. I’ll rant about that another time :)

So we first went to this club I’ve never been to. We get there after picking some people up and it turns out to be a “ghetto” club. Not really my scene, but I always to make the best out of it. We stay there for a bit and then head out to a high end club where it was asian night. Since the SC I was hanging out with were all asians, I guess the choice made sense. Plus I’ve never been to that club before on an asian night (only during the week few times). We got in with bottle service and made it pour!

Now normally I don’t like asian nights whenever I go out for practice, but this time I was hanging out with friends. I actually liked it. I met some cool people through social circles that I’m sure going to see again. If you get in the right social circle you’ll meet the right kind of people. Makes sense, right? Yes. But getting into a social circle is the hardest thing. Once you’re in, you’re in and money. But only get those social circles if you have “true” friends. My friend who has a really cool social circle is a great guy and we get along great. Then things just happen naturally as I meet his friends and he meets my friends. I’m sure at one point our social circle is going to merge (will take few years) but then we’ll have a powerhouse of valuable people.

But if you have to force a social circle to accept you and such; much harder. Just like you don’t have to get every girl, you don’t have to be friends with everyone. Once I understood this, my behavior and view on things gave me so many more opportunities. That way you also don’t have to force anything.

Ok I’m ranting. Back to the night. We shoot the shit over some vodka and I see some girls orbiting around our table. The thing with having a table is that it already that you have some money/status. So gaming with a table is so much easier. To prove it again to myself, I opened like 3 girls in proximity with a “adorable” and they wanted to join our table. Too easy and no fun, but I proved myself again what I knew. Now I can’t afford to buy bottle service every time I go out, but I do want to work towards a lifestyle where that is not a big deal.

Now also, since I was at this high end place, people who are in there already know you have some value. So opening is way easier. Girls know you already have some value, or else you wouldn’t be able to get in. So the initial phase of attracting is way easier. Whereas if you go to a regular club, any bum can get in. You don’t have any perceived value when you’re in that place, and you’ll get blown out more and faster. Another thing I’ve noticed is that when you’re at a high end place, girls worry about their social value in the place A LOT. Like if you come in and you lower their (perceived) social value, that’s like the worst case scenario for these girls. I’ve heard this from other people before and I have seen it before infield, but last night was another observation of it from my own sets and some naturals. Actually, one of my new friends I got introduced to is a natural. I need to hang out with these people more, because they have 1) game 2) don’t talk about game infield and 3) are COOL and FUN people to be around. Well at least, that’s the experience I have from a few naturals I know. They always have lots of fun and that is part of their game.

So then I couldn’t help to do approaches. First is this black girl who seriously looks like Gabrielle Union. Almost toooo similar…scary. Right now I’m working on basics: stated based attraction. Part of it is because I want to do plenty of stripper which requires good pumping state skills, another is that I suck at attraction. I’m more of a Mystery guy who uses intrigue and passive stuff as attraction. So I’ve been working on state based attraction lately. Last night was the same thing. Even though I didn’t think I was going to game, I always know what I’m working on. I take this part of my serious. If you would wake me up at 4am and interrogate me on my goals and missions, I could spit them out any second.

Anyway, the black girl was fun girl. I pumped her state through the roof and she started clapping her hands. Haha that’s when I knew I took it too far. But it was way early in the night and I got bored of her. I started telling her that “I’m going to start hitting on you all night long. So run away now while you can or bad things are going to happen to you…” sort of stuff. Every time I would escalate she would resist and after plowing a few times I left her. Plowing is not really my thing; I’m too lazy for that. It has it advantages and disadvantages. Would I say I’m a good “plower”? No. So I’ll add that to my todo list.

Then I got introduced to this asian girl through my other friends. I spanked her within 30 seconds because I could tell she was very open for that. I immediately set the precedence that she should run away or some more bad things were going to happen. Basicly, I spend maybe like 45 min with her. Wayyyy tooooo lonnggg. I was trying to pull her that night, but like after 30 min was when I was trying to figure out the logistics. Bad mistake. And logistics turned out to be bad. I carpooling and she was also.

Also, every time I start squeezing her ass or started rubbing it, she would spank me. BUT she would never leave me or get really mad. So to me that means it’s ON. Also I continually tried to makeout with her, but she resisted every time. Then the whole sucking neck and ear nibble thing got her hot, but she just wouldn’t make out. This girl is some weird breed.

Then she threw out some weird tests I never had before. Stuff like “you’re aren’t drunk enough”. In my mind I was like, “wtf is that supposed to mean?” but I ignored it and just kept escalating. Also I was way uncalibrated. For every escalation she said stuff like “there are so many other hot girls in here” or “I barely know you”. Now the first I think means she is insecure about herself or my perceived value is too high for her. The second is my lack of any comfort. Since I was way too focused on attraction and pumping state, of course I left out the comfort out of my game. But in this case I wanted to see how far I could go. But yeah I should have known that I should have toned it down. Also, she knows that we have mutual friends so it’s likely that we’ll see each other again. I’m not sure if that has anything to do with it, but I’ll take mental note of it.

Can’t remember that much anymore. The rest was blurry and just socializing with friends. Good times.

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FR

I want to hit some goals this year. It will motivate me to complete them. If I don’t complete ALL of them, I will pay each Magic Nugget $10. Here are my 6 game goals for 2009:

-Become an official Love Systems (junior) instructor.
-Have more girls than guys at my birthday party.
-Have my first SNL.
-Have my first SDL.
-Number closing 5 or more strippers.
-Read the following books: Psycho-Cybernetics, The 4-hour Workweek, Sperm Wars, and The Tipping Point.

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FR

I just got home from a Saturday night. I wasn’t supposed to go out tonight to the clubs but I ended up doing it. Before I arrived at the club I was hanging out with some friends over dinner. However that is not what this post is about. Lately I’m getting really lazy when it comes to pickup. One of my goals is to become an instructor and at the rate I’m going now this not going to happen this year. Or maybe it does, but I really feel like I’m not progressing that fast anymore.

Like tonight, I approached maybe 4 sets in the two hours I was there. That’s ridiculous. I just cannot explain what it is. The night before, where I was planning to bounce a girl, I did 3 sets. This happened both at the same venue where I know a lot of the staff. It makes me really comfortable, but maybe too comfortable. I feel like I don’t have to approach that much anymore. I’m thinking of stopping going to that venue and start rotating venues on a regular basis. I’m sure I’ll come back there once a while, just not twice a week anymore.

Part of this is also I think the chemistry with my wing. My main wing D is more doing his own thing now, which I totally respect. He’s getting a lot out of it and it has taken his game up a notch. The thing is that we don’t do any damage in the field TOGETHER. He used to be a wing I could count on in sets but now I cannot. He does his own thing and now I need other wings that I don’t always hangout with.

Last night was an example. Me and my girl were on and we were laying down the logistics of bouncing and possibly more. But my wing, a former bootcamp student, lost his girl which led to the breakup of my set. Now I don’t blame him at all but if that was my wing, someone I know I can count on and know what I can expect, I could go over it with him in detail and prevent that from happening in the future. I would rather have these mistakes made by a wing I go out with regularly than a wing I _sometimes_ hangout with.

So at one point I feel like I am progressing. One instructor noticed I have advanced over the last couple of months, and at some points I do feel like I advanced. I’m a lot more playful, better at teasing, and state based attraction is something I control now. Right now I still want to work on my overall attraction game and the transition into some advanced qualification stuff I’ve learned recently. I also bounce girls around the venue now pretty consistently and isolating girls from their friends. I couldn’t do all this just 2 months ago, so yes I am making strides.

But still I feel like a missing chemistry with a wing. I want a wing I can do some serious damage with. Like, if I see a 2set then I know that they can be pulled 100% with my wing. Our dynamic is so strong and fluid that we can read each other’s mind on what’s going to happen next. It’s like Mystery & Matador or Savoy and Sinn. I’m pretty sure when they go out together they are in sync when they do a set. Right now I feel like I am missing that. I haven’t talked to my wing D about this yet, so I feel uncomfortable posting this online before I talked to him about this. Either way, I’m going to start hanging out more with Quick. He is my age and so we could do well at college parties, since we both go to school. Also, if I can get along with him well then we can be the next Savoy and Sinn infield.

Another thing that might cause the lack of approaching is me having an BIG ego. Sometimes I feel like I’m superior because I work for the biggest dating company in the world. It makes me think I have some sort of entitlement that I don’t have to do the hard work. It feeds my ego of “mr pua”. And this is all BS I don’t need. It really feeds my ego and that is something I realized just yet. Somehow it makes me like I’m better than anyone else I go out with. All stupid shit in my head. Whenever I go out to venues where there are lots of puas, I feel like I have pressure to perform. I actually do better under pressure, but when these guys aren’t around I am lazy as FUCK.

In the end, I want to become an instructor. I feel like I’m not pushing my comfort zone anymore. You read stuff about that you progress really fast and then hit a plateau for a long time. Well, I think that plateau is something YOU CAN control. I think it’s an inner game issue, not necessarily outer game. I don’t want to hit that wall and DAMMMMMIT I want to become an instructor. So I just need to get the fuck out of the house and get my dirty work done.

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