Social Pancake – Blooming for Success

This is something that has been on my mind for a while. I like to see “game” as a lifestyle where beautiful women are naturally attracted to. Not just being able to pull a girl every night you can, but where you live a life where you are really happy (health, wealth, relationships).

Sometimes I think people are too caught up with going out every night and trying to improve their skillset. I do think it’s the fastest way to improve your dating life by going out a lot and practice. You will get kisses, phone numbers, lays, and so on. I understand some people want to take care of this part of their life as soon as possible by doing it within a certain amount of time. Once that’s taken care of, other areas of life will be taken care of.

Take for example school. You are a student with good grades. You discover the seduction community and you start going out a lot, like 4/week. Your grades go down, but at least you improve your dating life bit by bit. Is it worth it? Depends of course per person. I personally would rather have a lower GPA and have a cool life, than have a 4.0 with a shitty life. But if you can have a 4.0 and a cool life, that’s even better.

What I’m trying to say is try to balance everything. If you are a 4.0 student, but your dating life sucks, then try to keep that 4.0. But gradually start to incorporating ways you can improve your dating life WHILE keeping that 4.0. I still regret the times where I dropped responsibilities for going out. My grades went down a bit, I lost clients, and friends because I wanted to improve my success with women. Some might say that you have to sacrifice certain things to achieve a goal. I now realize that you can improve your success with women while maintaining the success you have in other areas and without losing other responsibilities. Now I don’t kick myself anymore for doing other things than going out to practice game. This doesn’t mean that you should stop going out or use this as an excuse for not going out.

If you are doing something that will help you in anyway, please by all means do it. Jacking off or staying at home doing nothing does not count. But if you have a project due within a short amount of time and you will be working on it instead of going out, that counts. Again, there has to be a balance for this. If you keep doing this for 4 weeks straight with zero approaches, then you are just making excuses for yourself not to go out.

Learning game is like a marathon, not a sprint. You will have plenty of time to improve your life and it does not have to happen within a certain amount of time. Put in the effort and success will come.

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Rants

Last night I failed to pull off a SNL and I’m not sure yet what the exact cause is. So this post is really just to recollect my thoughts and trying to figure out what the deal is.

So one of my good friends is having a birthday party at a club. Really nice club, bottle service, a lot of new faces. Since he is the center of attention, I don’t want to make any bold moves within the social circle. After all, it’s his birthday and his social circle (my extended social circle).

There is one girl I’m interested in so I start talking to her. Since I knew she was with the birthday boy’s party, I can just work my in from that angle; “So are you with X’s party?” May seem really obvious, but the important thing is to establish a mutual friend. That way you’re already “in” on the inside track. I did this really early on the night.

Then later on in the night we were standing at the table and I start talking to her. Since it was really loud, there was no storytelling or anything complicated. So it was all short and sweet mixed with some silly touching and games. I did some hair pulling and teasing when I found out that she was from the mid west.

She then asks if I want to dance with her. This kind of caught me off guard but I couldn’t refuse. So we start dancing and we have intense eye contact. Sign #1 she is attracted. Before I couldn’t really tell because I wasn’t really paying attention. In a social circle I rely on patience, so I was not expecting much that night. Anyway, so we were dancing, bodies close to each other with some gazing. Our cheeks touch each other, she doesn’t flinch so I escalate to the makeout. It was short and I cut it off first: “That’s all you get…” Her look was something like “what are you talking about?” in a confusing way. It was weird. Few minutes later, we madeout again for a little bit. We dance a bit more, it gets boring, and she wanders off.

I don’t chase, so I wander off talking to other girls. Since there were a lot of single girls at the party, I started talking to some of them. One really hot girl stood out but she was on a date with a good friend of mine (I found out later) who was also there, so she was off limits. I just wanted to talk to as many girls as I can, even if it was very short. Just to get some face time and if I do see them again, I can reinitiate conversation with “Were you at X’s birthday party at club Y?” and establish that we have a mutual friend and get more sticky.

I then see the girl I madeout with again. Another guy at the birthday party starts talking to her and reading from her body language she was just being nice to him. They sit on the other end of the table, so I decided to run some jealousy plotlines. I was sitting on the other end and I bounced two girls to sit on both sides of me. I do some silly games and playful touching with these girls to make my target jealous. If a girl gets jealous, that’s an unpleasant way for her to find out she is attracted. Very powerful. She and the guy wander off getting drinks and I just keep having fun with these two girls.

Later I find my target again and I drag her off to the dancefloor. We makeout again and go back to table for some quick comfort building. I want to get her number and go from there. I was really in the mindset of slowburn game and not really thinking of taking her home that night. Since I know she’s in my extended social circle, I will have plenty of time to get with her. If I don’t see her again, oh well, it was a fun night either way. ABUNDANCE MENTALITY!!! I keep everyone entertained at the table and my target is off to the bathroom. I lose her the rest of the night and as everyone is leaving getting their car, I see her again waiting for her car to get pulled up.

I noticed that her buying temperature was way down. She was testing me a lot for some reason. I pass all of them and she starts to give me compliments. Haha so predictable, got to love female psychology. She is basicly giving me the green light so I get her number. Her car pulls up and says “get in the car….” with a serious demeanor. So I get in.

Now this is where I fucked up somewhere. I found out she lives like 30 min away on the west side, whereas I live 45 min away east side. My car was parked on the street so she drives me there. I say something like SS: Tonight was awesome, but I don’t want the night to end.
HB: Do you want to go to A bar?
SS: Sure, is there one near your place?
HB: No.
SS: We should go back to your place and have some drinks.
HB: No I have stuff to do tomorrow morning.
SS: Ok cool. You can drop me off here.

It was something like this. She forced me to get in her car which was really weird. I was totally not expecting that. Then I try to figure out the logistics. I didn’t want her to drive us both back to her place, because my car was still on the street and the last thing I wanted was to have it towed the next morning.

HB: Do you want to go to A bar?
SS: Sure, is there one near your place?

When she said that, she was down to do that. I respond and then she got cold. I’m pretty sure this was the turning point. FUCK! I wish I carpooled to the club. I failed big time last minute. For some reason, this always happens to me. When you least want to get laid, that’s when all the opportunities come your way.

Now there is a dilemma. She is in my extended social circle. I can either play it really slow and work it that way. Or I’m going to go full blown like it’s a girl I met through cold approach. I’m not sure yet what to do exactly. She is kind of far out of my circle, although we have like 3 mutual friends. So I’d probably be better off with slow burn game. I’ll text her and see how she responds. Based on that, I’ll see what happens. Either way, she is just ONE girl. I have other girls in the queue in my social circle, so I’m not to worried. ABUNDANCE BIATCH! It’s a great thing to have in your mind.

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So last night was the first time I met up with two of three guys of my 12 Weeks of Glory program. I had made a 2-page handout for the night with some writing exercises, infield missions, openers, and resources. We met up at a diner and just got to know each other.

I wanted a group of guys who were hungry and were successful in other areas of their life. These guys usually do the best from my bootcamp experiences. So we did the writing exercises where the first one was what they wanted to get out of this program. I did this because I wanted to see what kind of realistic or unrealistic goals they were setting for themselves. Goal setting, in my opinion, is really important if you want to learn a skill and can contribute to better inner game. Every time you hit a goal you’ve worked for, you get a rush of peptides that will make you feel good. Do this plenty of times and you will feel a lot more confident. That’s why I like having mini goals when you go out, even when they are really simple. That is also why I included the infield missions for the guys to hit. This time was pretty easy, but some in the future will be a lot harder.

The first night was really just getting a feel for where everyone is. One guy did really well; he could approach and keep talking. The other guy still has some approach anxiety, and that is okay. I expect to have guys to have approach anxiety and my goal is to squash that as soon as possible.

The first 3 or 4 weeks will all be about approaching and transitioning. I really want to hammer this process down because that in itself will give you an edge over 90% of the guys. Most guys don’t have the balls to approach a beautiful woman. If you have a good approach then the rest of the pickup will be a lot easier. Also there is a lot to cover for the first 10 seconds; facial expressions, body language and positioning, openers, touching, eye contact, just to name a few.

What’s funny though was me doing demos. The last couple of months I barely have done any approaches. Maybe 25 in the last 2 months? And most of the 25 are part of a recent bootcamp too. So I was a bit rusty when I had to approach. It was not that bad but I had to think while I was in set which I haven’t done in awhile. That felt kind of weird. I also noticed I immediately started with fascination and comfort game. Why? I guess I’ve spent too much time in strip clubs! Although that did pay off because I fucked a stripper in 20 minutes (for the LR see the Love Systems Lounge). But I have also spent a lot of time in social circle settings where you don’t have to game like you do in cold approach. I’m glad I didn’t fumble or anything but I definitely want to get back on doing cold approaches again. Especially since I’ll have to do demos I need to be on my A-game. Alrighty, back to going out doing cold approach again! No more strip clubs for a while.

BTW the guys did great infield. Can’t wait to see them again and kick some ass in the field.

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PUA

I found out recently that soon you will find pickup artists on Tyra Banks. No other than Savoy and Braddock of Love Systems will be there being interviewed by Tyra Banks herself.

They will air a video clip where you see them teaching game to a guy and then approach women. I have no idea yet when it will be aired, but I can’t wait to see it!

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Random

It’s Monday night and I’m still recovering from the weekend. Exactly a week ago I wrote the same thing; I need to recover! Haha it’s like deja vu.

So Saturday I went to the social circle mastery seminar. I went to one at the Super Conference with Mr M and Braddock, but this time it was only Braddock teaching it.

He refined some of the material and I was taking notes on my laptop like a wildman. Some of the material was taught at a different way that made more sense. Being an advanced student, I could give other students a glimpse of what to expect and insights on the process. Also I learned new things that I’ve not heard before, so that was definitely good.

The next day was strippers and hired guns with Braddock and The Don. We had the seminar at Braddock’s pad which is really nice. We sat in the backyard, had some pizza while learning how to pickup strippers and hired guns in the sun and shadow. Very nice. This was also the second time I went to the seminar but I still learned a lot of new things. Between the first and second seminar I went to strip clubs to practice what I’ve learned and I can testify that it works.

After the seminar The Don invited me out to come to a BBQ part with him and Braddock. Of course I was down! So from the house on the Hills we went to another house on the Hills. Braddock’s place was nice, but this other place was nice too. I could totally see myself living in the Hills in a couple years and play that social life.

Back to recovering.

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