Social Pancake – Blooming for Success

Braddock and The Don revamped the Strippers and Hired Guns seminar a while ago and I attended the seminar. I wanted to apply the teachings first to see if they work before I was going to write any review so that the review is fair. So I went out to a strip club with my notes in my pockets and I was ready to see if this really works.

The seminar starts off with going over the general principles of gaming girls who are hired for their beauty and are pressed for time. The fact is, these girls have to be nice to you so the indicators of interest are most of the time fake. Braddock and The Don go over this and will tell you which IOIs are real and which are fake for all types of hired guns (strippers, waitresses, bartenders, and so on). Also since these girls only have a limited time to interact, you need to have really tight game in order to pull something off. They advice you to have decent game before you want to try this stuff out. Everyone who has taken a bootcamp and wants to learn how to pickup girls who are hired for their beauty should have a look at this seminar.

Most of the seminar is about picking up strippers. I’ve heard from other Love Systems instructors that The Don is a god in picking up strippers so I was very curious what he had to offer. In fact, Braddock learned stripper game from The Don. The Don beautifully compared regular game with stripper game. Regular game is like playing chess and stripper game is like speed chess. You have less margin of error and you need to be quick on your feet. These girls are gaming you for your money and you are gaming them for sex. Game versus game. Especially strippers and you are warned because apparently these girls are really good at gaming guys that they have specific routines. Waitresses and bartenders will flirt with you to get more tip and make you come back. You will learn what kind of routines and techniques these hired guns do on you so you can recognize them and not fall for them. Also, you want to get those girls with your game, not your money (or for the very least amount of money). So if you buy a 4-for-1 package and that includes a BJ, that’s not game and don’t expect anything about that in the seminar ;)

Here are some things you will learn on stripper game in bullet points (there is much more):

-What days and time of the month to go to strip clubs for best chance of closing
-What the best venues
-How to recognize real and fake IOIs
-What routines strippers will run on you and how to handle them (remember they game you for $$$)
-More than a dozen routines specifically for strippers (attraction, qualification, and comfort routines)
-Archetypes of strippers and you will learn how to recognize the type of stripper you want to game (and it’s not what you think it is)
-The Polarity Model for gaming strippers
-Frame control techniques (much more advanced than what they teach you at bootcamps)
-How to handle the question “do you want a dance?” so that she still sticks around and you can keep gaming. If you answer that question wrong, you lose the stripper.
-How and when to close the deal with strippers.

These are just some of them. There is much more and nitty gritty stuff that will help you gaming these girls. There are a lot of things you want to know because you want to be able to control the controllables and you will get plenty of information on how to set yourself up when you go out gaming strippers.

Braddock and The Don both start off saying what kind of frames you want to have in gaming strippers and general of dos and don’ts in gaming strippers. The most important aspect of picking up a stripper (or “exotic dancer”) is to avoid being boxed as a customer. In the seminar they go in depth how to not be categorized as a customer and both The Don and Braddock have field tested their techniques. If you can do this, you are already way ahead of everyone else.

Then you’ll learn about the life of a stripper. You will really get the inside scoop of the lifestyle of a stripper by the stories they share about the strippers they have dated and this is important information to know. Some stories are hilarious though especially when Braddock explained that these girls are either “broken” or “shattered” and there’s nothing else in between. They really go in depth on the archetype of a stripper and they have specific routines and gambits they use for just gaming strippers. You won’t find these anywhere else and you need to attend the seminar to find out what these routines are. The thing with strippers is that you can put them under the same umbrella behavioral and personality wise so that you can have a targeted routine stack, whereas when you meet a waitress or a bartender she can be any type of personality so your game arsenal has to be very general.

There are 3 different types of strippers and on my first night all I was worried about was identifying the type of stripper I’m dealing with. Braddock and The Don were so right, after talking to a couple of strippers I could totally tell which type of stripper each girl was. The thing is, out of the 3 types of strippers, there is only 1 type that you want to go after to game. The other 2 types are wasting your time and in the seminar you will learn how to identify these types. The type of stripper you want to game, I could immediately recognize her as soon she opened her mouth. She also happened to be the easiest to talk to that night so I was right! This shit works!

In fact, you will learn the Polarity Model for picking up strippers. The model explains step by step how you need to game strippers, from the moment they approach you to closing the deal. Braddock and The Don will go over each step providing you with routines and techniques to advance yourself in the model. I wish I could reveal what the model is, but you need to attend the seminar to find out, but they give so many notes on the model that walking through it is easy in theory. The application is another story! What you will learn in the model (of very many things) is how to avoid the customer frame, build attraction, recognize REAL IOIs, and close the deal. The model is simple, but there are so many techniques and tips given that I have over 8 pages of notes on it! I tried some of their field tested routines and I could see them work! At one point I pulled in another stripper so I had two strippers at my table but I was so paranoid that I wasn’t sure if this a double team tactic. Remember, these girls are gaming you and it is your job to take over the conversation, make the girls attracted to you and then escalate.

One thing I couldn’t find in my notes is on handling the waitress. Every time I had a new stripper sitting next to me, the waitress would come every time asking me to buy the girl a drink. She would come back at least 3 or 4 times while I was talking to the same girl each time. It just made my pickups really messy and make me look cheap for not buying. Maybe they did go over this but I don’t have anything on that in my notes.

Then Braddock and The Don go over picking up waitresses and bartenders. There are very specific techniques in gaming these hired guns. It’s not necessarily harder, like strippers, but it’s just different like there is a difference in day game and night game. If you want to learn how to pickup waitresses like those at Hooters and other restaurants, this is the seminar to take. Especially Braddock had many cool things to say about this. Again, these girls have to be nice to you, are pressed for time, but also have to come back to you. Braddock goes in depth explaining how different it is gaming these girls. I would say someone who has not taken a bootcamp can do this, but you just need to know the right techniques and types of routines which are different from “regular” game. For bartenders, Braddock and The Don give so many techniques and routines for gaming bartenders. They will go in detail how you build attraction and organize jealousy plot lines play by play. Again, all the IOIs you get are usually fake but you’ll learn how to recognize the real IOIs so you know when to close the deal.

Overall this seminar was money! I learned a lot of strategies on picking up hired guns and I can recommend this seminar to anyone interested in picking up girls who are hired for their beauty. The stuff they teach work! If you want to pickup strippers, waitresses, bartenders and other types of hired guns then take this seminar!

PS Silence = death.

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This is the BEST seminar I’ve ever went to! That’s how I want to start this review, because the content and the things I learned is absolutely money. I’ve wanted to take this seminar for a while, but I waited for an opportunity to have both geniuses Mr M and Braddock teaching it.

Social Circle Mastery does require that you have some basic knowledge of ‘game’ and you can at least do cold approaches, because you’ll need CA skills for building social circles. Braddock starts off with a good analogy: cold approaching is like hunting, and social circle building is like farming. With cold approaches you can go in like a sniper and get that one girl you want, whereas with social circle game you plant seeds, nurture, and then get a stream of GIRLS you want.

Going out all the time is fun for a while, but I also want to have a really cool social circle. It doesn’t necessarily have to be so I can have sex with a lot of girls (although that has be part of it). I also want to have cool friends who give me good emotions. Also I want to be well connected. Do you know a guy that always get stuff done or always has the “hookups” for things? I want to be that guy, or an “ultimate connector” like Braddock or Mr M would say. If I need to get something done, I want to have the option of calling several people who can help me. If I want to have a girl accompany me to an event, I want to be able to look at my phone and say to myself: “These 10 girl friends all want to hang out with me and would love to go with me to this event”.

What you’ll learn in this seminar is really how social circles work. Most people who meet each other is either through work or their friends. Meaning, social circles are everywhere. Mr M and Braddock explain why you don’t want to use cold approach skills within a social circle, because you game differently in a social circle. Key terms are explained and referenced a lot. Before I went to this seminar, I made sure I read some of the articles of Mr M and Braddock on social circles so I was a little bit prepared.

The models they teach completely make sense. I’ve always had some sort of a vague idea how social circles work, but how Braddock and Mr M teach and explain it is crystal clear. They back it up with stories and examples of how social circles work. The most interesting part for me was “gaming the connectors”. My goal (short term) is to mix club and social circle game, kind of like what BradP explains in his club game CDs. What Braddock and Mr M teach is how you befriend those people who give you access to the HOT girls. You know, usually it’s the ugly girl of the group, but it can be anyone. Then when the time is right, you strike the hottest girls in the social circle.

Then after the basics were covered, we got into the application of the theories. This seminar is so easy to follow and is very structured, so going over everything was very smooth. The domino and waterfall effect make sense and they explain how and why it works. They also go over how you can escape the dreaded “lets just be friends” (LJBF) zone and use it to your advantage. The MRB5 model is absolutely money. Money, money, money. They clearly explained it and I’ve tried it after the seminar with some girls that are in my circle with success. Every time they see me, they give me this “look” that Mr M explained. I’ve created buzz! Everything they teach is so easy to apply, and since it’s within your social circle, your margin of error is bigger than at cold approaches. Also, you can build value of time and work your SC game at many different circles. That’s so great about social circle game, you can technically work a lot of girls at the same time and collect the dividends later.

There is one thing that I missed: what the best way is to stay in contact with all those connectors? Do you call those people a lot? Text them? If so, how do you do that best? Add them to your IM? I think Facebook is a great way to stay in contact with a lot of connectors, something Soul and I talked about briefly. It’s something they could add to their program. They went thoroughly over the MRB5 model, with each step clearly explained, but I did miss something. I think if Mr M and Braddock explained it through a story of how they applied the model, it would have made it click more and glued everything together. Kind of like a LR broken down at the seminar using the model and other theories at the end of the seminar. That really would have completed the seminar. Also, after you’ve slept around in your circle, how do you maintain the circle? Most of the info was given to get you the circle, but little was talked about on the maintenance of circles. Also we talked very briefly of setting frames for fuck buddies, I wish we could have gone over that a little bit more. Another thing, something that might seem common sense, but I guess it would be good advice to be very discreet when you sleep around in your circle. Like if you slept with a girl in your circle, and you see her again at a party of whatever, you have to act like nothing happened and keep being discreet. Things like this would be a good addition to the seminar.

By the time the seminar was over, I really understood the articles I’ve read before and I saw the potential of social circle game. Really, this seminar is absolutely money. I really loved it. What you’ll learn is also applicable to business and other situations in life, not just to girls. However, that is a connection you have to make yourself. They teach it in a way that’s meant for getting girls, but I’m sure Braddock and Mr M could add an extra segment on how you can apply the theories to business and other areas of your life, like what Mr M calls “mentor game” (gaming high value guys) and so on. It’s nice for a change to run social circle game and actually sleep around with girls you actually get to know, instead of some random club girl. I’ve always wanted to have a super cool social circle and now I have the knowledge and tools to do get one. I’ve implemented some of the teachings and they work. Trust me, the info they give you is MONEY. It blew me away. If you want to have a stream of girls in your life, then take this seminar!!!

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Braddock and Mr M rolled out a new seminar on inner game. I’ve always wondered how you can improve your inner psychology at a much faster rate. My idea on inner game was that you’ll get more confidence and self-esteem by continually experiencing successes, kind of the approach going from outer game to inner game. If you keep getting better at pickup, you’ll get more success, and as you keep getting more successes (dates, lays, social circle, etc) then you’ll automatically get your inner game up to par. For example, I always thought I could never get Caucasian girls (me being Asian). Then I got a Caucasian fuck buddy and now I think I can get every Caucasian girl! But this took me a long time to realize. What if I never met that specific at that specific time? I still would have been stuck with that limiting belief.

But this is a long process going from outer game to inner game, so I was really curious and excited at the same time to take this seminar so I can speed up the process. I’ve been struggling with some limiting beliefs and having confidence issues on a deep level. Sometimes I think, “Do I really deserve a ten?” I don’t even want those thoughts coming up…

I would consider myself a happy person most of the time, but when my personal situation gets in trouble it will affect me BAD. For example, I remember times when my business was in big trouble and that I was in big financial trouble. All day long all I was thinking how I could solve this problem and consequently whenever I was going out I got blown out all day long for several weeks. My inner game problems affected my outer game.

But if you have yourself put together and have confidence, these problems should bounce right off you and your emotions shouldn’t be your deciding factor for making decisions. Braddock and Mr M (with Sheriff) have this excellent interview series on “Being an Alpha Male” (vol 25) that has some really good inner game concepts. I’ve been reading these notes every 2 weeks and I was hoping the inner game would go deeper on it. Also, I didn’t want this seminar to be a summary of several self-help books.

Braddock starts off with an interesting quote: “If you want to change the world, you have to change yourself first”. We are told what the concepts are for the pathway to change. And so we begin with Mr M and Braddock starting off with giving a break down of how we can change ourselves on a biological level. They give scientific evidences and reasoning on how we can change. It was very captivating, especially after I attended the mini-seminar on inner game at the super conference. They talk about neuronets, peptides and other scientific concepts which are very interesting. I loved how they demonstrated these concepts with their hand movements, that really got stuck in my head. Every time when they asked us something on neuronets, I would answer them with my hand movements! It really stuck.

Have you ever met someone and you knew right away that THAT person has his life together? I certainly have and Braddock and Mr M explain how that works. Apparently we have certain receptors for detecting what someone else “feels” inside. Imagine when you have your inner psychology together, you walk up to a girl, and she can feel right away that you’re a REAL confident guy. That’s attraction right of the bat before you even do something.

Then they go over paradigm shifts, how you know when you get one, and how to look for them. This was super interesting. Of course the concept of “value” couldn’t be overlooked. That’s one of the core concepts in pickup, and I liked how they related pickup concepts with some biology and psychology concepts. It is like when you read “Influence” and relate those concepts to pickup, your eyes will open up and everything starts making sense. During the whole seminar, I was getting new ideas and just kept nodding my head. Thing started to click, or like how Mr M would do it Jim Cramer style: BOOOYAAHHHH!

“To find yourself, you need get a little bit lost”
Great quote! We went over setting goals and what that does to you. Task completion feels good to the body and Braddock explained why you want to set small goals every time you go out. It has biological AND psychological effects on you that will improve your inner game. They also went over the behaviors that are unattractive (like neediness) and how you can avoid and fix them. You can’t always fix them over night, but knowing what you’re working on helps in improving your self-esteem. Also the concept of “being the in the moment”, something I didn’t FULLY understand from Tolle’s book, is discussed. You can be in the moment all the time if you have yourself together and Braddock and Mr M go over in details about this.

There were so many more concepts. In fact, we didn’t even complete the full seminar in 6 hours. We completed maybe 1/3 of the whole seminar and it turned out that it’s going to be a 2 day seminar. Love Systems is kind enough to give me and the other attendees free access to future inner game seminars since we didn’t finish the whole seminar. It’s hard to criticize this seminar because I didn’t get the chance to do the whole seminar, but here’s one thing: More practical exercises or points to know. A lot was concepts and scientific break downs. I would have loved for them to tell us, “do this and this and this….write this down…..” so it’s more practical. How do you apply this knowledge? This is what I missed. One time we did do it by writing down on what we do when we seek approval. It got me thinking and when I heard the answers of others, it made me realize I do it too. Another was when they said, “write down all the limiting beliefs you have” and so I did. Now Mr M and Braddock should have gone over them with each and one of us to discuss them. I think then it will have a bigger impact when you say them out loud and them providing feedback.

Every single time I go over my notes, I learn new things. At the time when I was writing these concepts down, I didn’t fully grasp them. But every time I reread them, I’m starting to see things more clearly. I’m starting to understand what Mr M and Braddock mean and it feels good. The material they gave me is so powerful that I’m reading it every night before I go to bed to internalize it. If you’ve listened to the “Being an Alpha Male” IVS and you liked it, then you will LOVE this seminar. It covers those concepts in a LOT more detail and in more practical ways too. I honestly can’t say that this seminar killed my inner daemons, but it has certainly made me aware of inner game concepts. The information they give you is money! I can’t wait for the full seminar!

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So I was at the Super Conference and met up with Soul. I’ve met him before at a recent lair talk and I learned a ton from him. After implementing some stuff from the lair talk, I got some really good results. So I couldn’t wait to see what the full seminar is about.

Soul is a very warm person and easy to talk to. After attending his deep rapport talk at the SC, you understand why. I’m pretty sure that he’s an avid fan of Dale Carnegie’s “How to win friends and influence people” and he knows how to implement this into his personality. As he walks in the seminar room, he sends out warm energy. I couldn’t wait to see what this seminar is all about. To be honest, I didn’t have much expectations. My mindset was something like “If I do well at club game, then I will master day game easily without any info” but boy I was going to be wrong on that.

Soul starts off with the mindset he has and explains what you need to have to be good at day game. Soul is all about direct day game, but there are also situations where indirect is more effective. Of course he goes over that too and explaining why different situations require different approaches.

Then we go over the Emotional Progression Model and how you go through it with day game. He walks you through it with examples and we even get to do some exercises such as opening. What I really liked is that he gave really useful tips and info that you find anywhere. Those little things you can do with your tonality, body language, and facial expressions that can make or break your approach.

You get plenty of material that you can use right away for each phase of the EMP. They serve as examples and Soul highly encourages to come up with your own stuff, but that wasn’t too hard after knowing that some of his openers and other routines are.

We closed with info on handling logistics and doing same day lays. Since I’m at a point in my life where I don’t want a girlfriend nor want to go on dates, this is where I really wanted to get the meat of the seminar. I got some good info on it and the basics, but due to the time limit, I think there was more to it than was given. I would have loved to hear from Soul more stories on how he did same day lays and working out logistics. Another criticism would be to get more exercises done with Soul. We did do opening exercises, but I would love to have done some approaches on him to open, transition, and some qualification. That way you can get feedback on your general interaction and body language throughout the interaction. However, this is a seminar so if you want to get feedback on that, take a bootcamp. And of course, having some infield portion would be awesome too, but I understand that this is a seminar.

I have to take back my remarks that I didn’t need that day game seminar, because I learned a lot from this. Just because you only do bar and club game, doesn’t mean that you will do well at day game. I know plenty of guys who do really well at bars and clubs, but when they see a hot girl in the daytime they are totally uncalibrated and most of the time don’t even have the balls to approach. For day game, you need to have the balls to put yourself out there and a slightly different strategy for picking up women. Soul delivers and he will tell you what you need to successfully pickup women during the day. All the little tips and tricks that you don’t find anywhere is what I really liked about this seminar, plus the info on logistics and same day lays. If you don’t like to go to bars and clubs, but want to pickup girls in the daytime, this seminar is for you.

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The Super Conference in LA was AMAZING! I took a bootcamp at this Super Conference, so I had the SC seminars during the day and at night I went out with some instructors.

I went to the last Super Conference in Vegas earlier this year so I had high expectations. This SC was better than the last one. This time you also had 2 sessions running at the same time, but now you could work a lot more with the instructors on a wide variety of topics such as opening and transitioning, handling amogs and tests, body language, and many more. That way I worked with a lot of different instructors. I picked up different stuff from every instructor and that to me is what’s so great about the Love Systems Super Conferences: you get to work with who you want. They are all good, but have different styles and strengths/weaknesses. One instructor might be an expert on SNLs while the other is better at social circle game. Whatever you want, LS has instructors that are experts on different areas and you can just walk up to them and ask them whatever you need to know.

I never had the idea that the instructors “were better” than the attendees. My impression of them was they were genuine in helping people and were just like “us”. At the last SC, it was a bit more chaotic because the rooms were far apart. That way it was hard catching instructors, but this time the rooms were right next to each other. That was perfect for finding instructors you wanted to talk to. After every session you could always talk to the speaker(s) and ask very specific questions. Unless instructors were in a hurry, you could always grab their attention and get some personalized feedback.

This also helped a lot of what I disliked at the last Super Conference. People would continually ask very specific/tailored questions on their own situation that was of little use to the room. This time, since all the instructors were easily accessible, those questions were avoided in the room and were done in private with the instructors, so time was saved for some better “general” questions everyone could use and more time for practice.

Also what I picked up was that LS speakers were trying to make the presentations in the main room more interactive by involving the audience. I did not see it much if at all at the last SC.

This time we all got a binder with a notepad so we could take notes. Much better than the last SC and definitely gave a more professional twist to this conference. BTW: The sales people were very nice too. They’re not all over you trying to sell anything to you. If you we’re interested in services, like 1on1 or seminars, they were gladly trying to help you out.

Bootcamp
Where I really got my money’s worth was the bootcamp (infield portion). For someone who has been doing this for about 10 months and who went to the last SC, I had a lot of theory in my head already. But I never had professionals give me feedback on my game, and guide me to take my game to the next level.

The first night I went out with Braddock and Biskit. I’ve met Braddock the first time in Vegas at the SC, and I believe he wasn’t a lead instructor then, but his knowledge is unreal. You can pick his brain for hours and he’ll cite different books for you to back up statements without any hesitation. Also, you can tell that he’s really passionate about teaching game. Braddock gave me really good feedback, like super good feedback. He winged me in one set and saw me do several sets, but he said what I do well and pinpointed what my sticking points are. He also told me how I can fix them.

I didn’t know much about Biskit, it was my first time meeting him. I didn’t know anything about him, but let that not distract you. The first night I saw him doing demos and that guy knows what he is doing. Does he have game? Yes sir! It’s nothing flashy that might awe new students. His sets are really solid and he break it down step-by-step for you. In the field he pushed me so I would always be in set and not just stand around talking to other students and instructors. Biskit is very positive and will give you the right feedback at the right time. My sessions with him were good, and he would always willing to help me out. Absolutely great guy to work with.

The second night I went out with Cajun and Kisser. I’ve met both of them before, Cajun at the Vegas SC and Kisser outside of a club during an LA BC. When you meet Kisser, you can tell he’s always positive. I’m almost 100% that his brain chemicals are different. This guy exudes positivity to the nth degree, and those are the kind of people you want to work with. He’s the perfect example of nice guys who can get girls, if you just know the Love Systems techniques and tactics. If you see him infield, you’ll see “nice guy game” in action!

Cajun on the other hand is the bad boy of the team. He has this James Bond vibe around him. He might be short, but his aura screams “I’m sexy and trouble”. If you need anything on body language, you can talk to him about that. He did several sets with me and I saw him do some sets himself. He’s a lead instructor for a good reason: he can run solid game, break it down for you, and give you good feedback. Cajun told me similar stuff that Braddock gave me and gave another set of solutions.

Now that I had several instructors tell me almost the exact same thing, I truely know what I should work on. Self-diagnosis is hard and not always accurate. By having several instructors tell me what my sticking points are and how to solve them, this is really what you pay for. I’d highly suggest for everyone to get a BC, it’s worth the money. I’m college student and tight on money, but investment was totally worth it. It totally opened my reality on what I can do now and in the future. I’ve posted two field reports of my nights and this bootcamp crushed two sticking points. The BC definitely cut my learning curve by several months up to maybe a year, because it eliminated two sticking points and now I know what weaknesses I have in my game. With that I also have exercises and notes on how to improve my success with women. TAKE A BOOTCAMP!!!!

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I have to agree with other people here, this is the BEST release so far. If I could recommend anyone one volume, it would be this one.

There is so much content that you can use. I also took a lot more notes than I usually do. The trio was a great combination. You can hear that Braddock really has his stuff together, Mr M has great insights, and Sheriff provides his laid back money advice.

I’ve been reading Sinn’s notes on Inner Game (LS SuperConf) once every month and my notes of this volume every 2 weeks. It has really opened my eyes on a lot of things, such as jealousy, getting stuff done, and being internally centered.

10/10

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I just finished listening to the Love Systems Interview Series on Sticking Points. Braddock, Rokker, and Mr M discuss common sticking points and how to tackle them. They also share some of their SP they had trouble with while learning the art of pickup.

They start off talking about what sticking points are and then go along the emotional progression model discussing common sticking points in each phase. I picked up some nuggets of info that are currently my sticking points. Also you’ll hear what things you can immediatly improve on. I thought I had qualification down, but then I found some gold info on it that I immediatly can fix. One of them is “reward/relate on the right basis of how big the hoop was”.

I believe Jeremy is pretty new to being the interviewer. You can hear him being a bit ‘robotic’ and not having that flow. That’s the only minus I have for the product. The instructors on there were good and I liked what they shared. The audio quality was good and so was the content.

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We are what we repeatedly do – Aristotle

Lately I’ve been going on the inner game path and wanted to find out what foundations I needed. I stumbled on the idea of identity when I saw the Pickup Artist show and BradP’s 30/30 program where they both started with the idea of identity. It totally slipped my process of becoming a more attractive man because when I started out 6 months ago I went straight away with approaching and memorizing routines. I started peacocking and dressing better, but for some reason the girls never knew exactly who I was. As of late this changed because I started grounding myself better. Unfortunately there isn’t much information out in the community on identity and grounding, so this interview series on identity was a bless.

I can advise everyone to take notes of these interview series CDs because you will pickup a lot more valuable information than listening 10x to it (like I used to do).

Out of this CD I really got what an identity is and foremost why it is important to have a strong identity. Your identity is not necessarily your job/occupation, this is something I thought it was. It’s something far more than that and they go over how to display your identity. It can be done through stories, props, clothing, and social circle.

In almost every set, when you’ve attracted the girl, she will start to ask “what do you do?” The bad thing is to straight away answer with your job, because it doesn’t tell the girl anything who YOU really are. Also, if you have an unattractive identity you can frame it in way that it seems attractive without lying (imho you should never have to lie in set).

Another important aspect of identity is attracting the girl with your fashion. I didn’t know that your identity displayed through your fashion can actually be used as a false disqualifier. Congruence is very important and that is the reason we cannot all peacock like Mystery because it has to match your identity. If you’re a finance freak then you shouldn’t peacock with painted nails, you get the idea. BradP, not on this CD, also has some good stuff on this with sexual stereotyping your identity.

How do you construct a grounding routine? There is very little information on this but you can find some pointers on this CD. This one of the most important parts of your game, grounding. If you can’t do it, then the girl will never know who you are and she won’t be able to brag/tell her friend who you are.

The advice Sinn, Future, and Tenmagnet give really apply to life and they should make you a better person. Thus a more attractive man that women want to be around with.

After listening to this CD and taking notes, I had some epiphanies and made me realize a lot of stuff. It’s that good. “Live your life”

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Sinn gave everyone at the PUA Summit 2008 a free 15 minute phone consultation. Not too long ago I talked to El Topo on the phone, and today I spoke with Sinn. Lucky me, I talked to two of my favorite people in the community!

Basicly Sinn wanted to find out what my sticking points are and what a typical night for me is. I told him my situation and what my goals are with pickup. Immediatly Sinn started diagnosing my game to find out what my SP are. He reminded me that learning game is not a linear process and that is so true. He identified that my opening is not as good as it’s supposed to be. Also, group theory is a SP of mine, but I knew that already. Sinn gave me some quick pointers on how to fix that, because the bigger the sets get, the more of a dancing monkey I become. Another SP is mixed sets. I’ve posted this before on my blog, I play it safe whenever I’m out. I always pick the easy sets and try to avoid the harder sets. That has to change. So by just talking to me Sinn revealed to me 2 new sticking points. The list gets bigger, but I only want to work on 3 SP at a time.

Too bad it was only 15 minutes. I’m sure that an hour with him on the phone could help me diagnose my game to the fullest and have solutions to fix my SP even better. I hope to work with Sinn and El Topo in the future with their menthorship program. But more details on that when I come back from vacation in late August.

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So I went out yesterday and that was the last day of May. If someone would ask me how my month overal was, I would say “mediocre”. In April I hit a plateau so it really couldn’t get worse than that. I had a date with a girl this month, my 3rd date since I joined the community in Dec 07. I do see this a victory because I improved my phone game a lot. Few months ago I can remember that I was really scared for talking to a girl on the phone, but in May my phone game was really smooth since I was talking to girls almost every day on the phone. Now I have structure for phone game and material that I actually use. Maybe I’ll publish my structure soon, something that has been working for me.

So, yes I had this date. I went in with no expectations and it ended up really well. I don’t think I wrote a FR for it, but basicly I met up with my target and her friend. We walked around Disney Downtown and then catched a movie. I grabbed my balls and kissed her as soon as her friend left. I built some more comfort and she is in love with me. Geez, I’m such a smooth guy sometimes ;)

Too bad I really don’t have any feelings for her. I’m not in the game to have a girlfriend YET, I want fuck buddies. I do not think I can turn her around into a FB because we started in the dating frame as soon we started talking on the phone. But I can add her to my social circle. I just need to figure out how I’m going to put her into the friendzone and at the same time keeping her around. I’m just like a girl…

However, from reading my own field reports and talking to El Topo, I really need to find a way to have some structure in learning game. I really have this feeling that I’m not progressing as fast anymore as I used to. Of course, when you just start out then your learning experience is like a J-curve. But I truely believe I can still learn a lot more in a faster way. I just need some sort of structure. Also I don’t think I truely know what my sticking points are. So far I think these are my SP:

-Getting full isolation
-Bantering
-Bouncing girls out of the venue
-Consistently approaching the hottest girls
-Direct game during the day
-Handling AMOGs and interrupts

I’m sure there are other areas that I can improve on, but these are the important points. If I can blast them away one by one I’m sure I’ll be money!

I’ll be taking a break for 2 months since I’m going back to Amsterdam in 2 weeks. But I’ll blog more about the next few days.

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