Social Pancake – Blooming for Success

Part I is here.

So right now it’s just all attraction and attraction. Now my idea is to also build a bit of comfort by interspersing it with some regular “AFC” texts to keep it normal. Now my transition was really bad, but it did it’s job. Urgghh…still bad when I read this :)

(2 hours later)
Me: Hehehe respect. What have you been up to lately?
Her: Just got out from body scrub & oil massage :D treat for myself <3 it's good. U should try it :P
Me: Ooooh nice. You can do it on me sometime. All my 7 wives can't do that so I could use a 8th wife who can rub my back ;)
Her: Too bad that I don't do it by myself. I'll introduce u the place I go in ktown, ok? ;)
Me: It better not be a happy ending place
Her: Haha u r funny

She's not complying and I think it's due to the 2 hours that passed. I was hoping she said that she would rub my back, but instead she gives me a recommendation. Not necessary a bad thing, but not what I was shooting for. But she still likes the texting so I can proceed.

Again, after some "comfort" (for lack of better word) I go back into attraction again to keep it up. Again super obvious and just being funny. My definition of comfort in the context of text game is that she has some glimpse of my life. So it can be just one line where I said that I just came back class or whatever. Anything where she will find out more about me and is not "gamey".

Next day
Me: I just made you look at your phone for no reason...looks like I got you in check =]
Her: Believe or not i do more stuff w/o any reason lol so this doesn't bother me at all ;)
Me: You're such a goofball. What are you plans this week. I have something exciting going on, but only for cool people.
Her: Im kinda busy this week....is next week ok for u?
Me: That works. Please leave your tears and drama at home ok? :)
Her: Big girls don't cry ok? Haha when do wanna go next week?
Me: Hehe. Thursday works for me.
Her: Ok

Again I re-initiate with something funny and start building momentum, because I was planning to take her out. I don't text out of nowhere "what are you doing next week?" but first something else and then slowly into the interaction I'll find out what her schedule is like. So I ask her that and basicly ask her out. Now the last part is important of "but only for cool people". It's there to soften the blow if she doesn't want to go, and I totally stole the idea from dahunter in his distractor post on TAF. I don't ask it in a yes/no question to avoid any awkwardness. I already called her a goofball and if she can't go out, she can banter back out it and subtexting that she can't go. But in this case she just straight up says she can't go. But she is the one who wants to set a date, so it's probably legit that she is busy, and is still interested.

3 days later
Me: If grannies keep driving dangerously on the roads I might have to intervene some day! How's your day?
Her: Midterms & papers are killing me :S How's your day?
Me: Poor little girl. My day is awesome. Just got myself a nice home made pad Thai cooked by moi *so proud*
Her: Wow u cook? Impressive :) I wanna learn how to cook thai food too >.<
Me: You can’t cook? That’s it…I’m filing for divorce. I’ll keep the money and house, you keep the 6 kids.
Her: I cook but I dont cook thai food :( dont forget to pay the reparation lol
Me: Oh you CAN cook. I like that :) Forget about the divorce then. Lets trade services. You cook me sushi, I’ll eat your food. Fair? :)
Her: Im filing for divorce! Japanese dont cook sushi at home!

Basicly I re-initiate contact with something funny and random thing. I set it up knowing that I will throw in a cooking / divorcing roleplay. Something Braddock taught me: “ask the questions you want to answer.” Ever since I’ve adopted that, I always have things to say in set or know a few steps ahead what my moves are in any situation. Pretty money. The rest is standard role playing. Did I tell you I like role playing?

Also, my day is always cooler than hers. I’m always cooler than her. I like keeping that mindset and interactions that way, where I’m always cooler than the girl.

At this point I did overkill the whole roleplaying. Like way too much. But still she is playing along, so I guess I’ll just keep pushing it.

4 days later
This is a text routine I’ve been using a lot lately and has always worked great. I call it the “call the occupation” routine, where I basicly pretend to be calling her at her job and talking to her. This girl works for an insurance company, so pretend to talk to her with some callback humor about my butt.

Me: *ring ring* Hi I’m [name] and I would like to talk to an insurance representative for my butt.
Her: Please choose the option: 1 payment. 2 claim. 3 customer service.
Me: *pressed 3*
Her: How can I help you?
Me: I think I have a date with a crazy Japanese girl this Thursday and I want to precaution my butt against any spanking. Should I add accident coverage?
Her: U need to add accidental coverage and I would recommend u to add towing coverage with covers the ambulance expense
Me: That’s going to be an expensive date. Could you look up her records for me? Her name is [name]. Description: pretty face, slim and sexy body, and a huge nerd.
Her: Hesitate to tell u but….U need to be really careful. She is on the blacklist.
Me: Hmmm….I’ll take my chance. She might be worth it. Thanks for the customer support. Bye.

So this routine is pretending you calling her on the job and talking about the girl in 3rd person. Also I gave her a compliment. I usually don’t do that, especially not physically, but I gave it a shot. I’m not sure what her response means to it, but she keeps playing along that she will hurt the innocent virgin. I’m also letting her know that she hasn’t completely won me over with that last sentence.

Day of the date
Me: Hey are we still on for tonight?
Her: Yes 9 rite?
Me: Yeah. See you then.

Couple hours later
Her: Im leaving my place now.

And so we went on a date. Basicly on the day of the date I always text to see if the date is still on. If she’s gonna flake, might as well find out early so I can make new plans.

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Part II is here.

My first text-game breakdown! By no means am I an expert on text game, but I have experimented a lot with it. Last couple of months I’ve switched to text-game only to keep in contact with girls, to keep numbers warm, and to get girls out on dates. This is just to work on my text game, because I’m comfortable calling girls. Right now I just call girls when they are in my social circle.

Anyway, after seeing Formhandle talk on text game and he liked my text game, I’ve decided to post up a conversation that’s from the beginning all the way to the date.

Background: I met this girl through another friend and the second time I met her was at a big dinner party. We sat next to each other (smooth move by me) and I grabbed her phone, called my number, and programmed my number as “Charming [name]“.

During the dinner party we started texting.

Me: Do you speak text?
Her: Yeah :))
Me: Cool. You’ve earned +1 point.
Her: LOL!
Me: Compatibility test: chocolate or vanilla? Shower or bath? Bonus Q: favorite ninja turtle?
Her: Haha chocolate and bath. Donatello ofc!!
Me: -2.
Her: Haha whatev!

So I just start with a canned one-liner that never disappoints. I like using a point system with girls to get them qualify themselves and subtext a screening vibe. I continue doing this with the compatibility test (credit Savoy) but I used it in another context than Savoy does. So I throw out some hoops and she jumps through all of them. Now normally you always reward good behavior, but no matter what the girl answers, I always play it off like she loses me. Not sure if it’s the right thing to do, but seems to be working for me. I think because if you already have that flirty vibe, it works.

We split off at the party and somewhere around 00:30am I text her to see if she is down to fuck.

Me: I just woke you up ;P

I’ve only tried this text once and it worked, but I want to test it more. Basicly, if the girl responds pretty fast I call her up and figure out if she is DTF. If not, maybe she is already asleep, it gives her a reason to text me back so we can continue texting. This was really a shot in the dark with her, I had no idea if she wanted to fuck or not. But I’m always up for experimenting. In this case she didn’t text back till the next morning.

Her: too bad u didn’t wake me up :P
Me: But you did wake me up. I hate you :)
Her: I thought u r having a lunch that was perfect timing, wasn’t it? :P
Me: Noooo! I don’t know who your boyfriend was….but he did not spank you enough!
Her: Hahaha spanks don’t work on me LOL
Me: Uh oh….I don’t want to know what you hide in your closet. I can’t handle whips and chains.
Her: Didn’t know japanese is hardcore? Still got a lot to learn boy ;)
Me: You’re right. My butt has insurance and it’s against the policy to get whipped by little innocent japanese girls.
Her: Please add the accident coverage on ur insurance then u will be fine ;) that covers for people do extreme sports <3

Basicly I do a lot of fantasy roleplaying in my text. A lot. Sometimes it’s too much and over the top, but I’m still experimenting with it. Some girls totally dig it, others play along for a little bit and then just go back to normal. I still need to find some calibration in this, but this girls eats it up.

“I hate you :)” basicly means “I like you”. I like to set early on that we’re flirting over text, so first I did the screening thing and now I basicly give her a SOI. So whenever we continue texting, it’s on and flirty.

The classic spanking line. I almost use this every time somewhere in my text to sexualize it a little bit early on. Also in every text the girl is always the sexual aggressor and I’m just an innocent virgin and little boy. In this case, the girl is couple years older and she already teased me about being younger. So she does that again and it’s sort of a test. So I run with it and just make it absurd by saying that can’t hurt my butt. But the thing is that I know this girl works for an insurance company, so I always try to make my teases and roleplays relevant to their hobbies or jobs. The concepts and frames are always the same, just a little adjusted to each girl.

2 days later
Me: Hey dork we have a serious problem
Her: What problem sir?
Me: I took a pregnancy test….it’s yours.
Her R u sure? U shoulda take dna test
Me: I was an innocent virgin before you came along. Just face it! You have to pay me child support!
Her: I was innocent too u think u r the only one lost something? Im so disappointed…
Me: You were the one who got me drunk! I just want to make sure daddy is paying! I need the money to buy me some MAC and gucci bag.
Her: Talk to my lawyer! I don’t remember what happened! I don’t pay for something i don’t remember!

Key to roleplays is that they are super obvious. If they are not obvious, then they aren’t as fun. Also, role reversals are money and make them obvious. Even though she played along, reading this makes me think I could improve my text game little bit from above. Any suggestions are welcome.

Also, every time I re-initiate with a girl, it always starts off with a role play that I’ve planned out. So in this case, it’s the pregnancy role play and how she will have to pay child support and so on. It’s a way to build momentum and get her invest in me. Investment is important. The more a girl invests in you, the more she will value you. This will build more compliance and so on.

Another thing, mirroring is also important. If I send a long text and she replies with an one-word answer, she’s not complying as much as hoped. So in that case I also respond with something short. But if she responds with some long answer too, it’s on.

Timing of texts is also important. I almost never immediately respond. I take my time to respond and come up with some analysis and some contingencies. I like to think a few steps ahead. So if I sent a text, and she responds 1 minute later, I’ll usually text back within 15 minutes or so. That way you can banter back and forth to keep that momentum up. But if it takes her to text back 2 or 3 hours, I’ll wait just as long to text her back. I will definitely not text back any sooner than it took her to reply.

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