Social Pancake – Blooming for Success

Last night I failed to pull off a SNL and I’m not sure yet what the exact cause is. So this post is really just to recollect my thoughts and trying to figure out what the deal is.

So one of my good friends is having a birthday party at a club. Really nice club, bottle service, a lot of new faces. Since he is the center of attention, I don’t want to make any bold moves within the social circle. After all, it’s his birthday and his social circle (my extended social circle).

There is one girl I’m interested in so I start talking to her. Since I knew she was with the birthday boy’s party, I can just work my in from that angle; “So are you with X’s party?” May seem really obvious, but the important thing is to establish a mutual friend. That way you’re already “in” on the inside track. I did this really early on the night.

Then later on in the night we were standing at the table and I start talking to her. Since it was really loud, there was no storytelling or anything complicated. So it was all short and sweet mixed with some silly touching and games. I did some hair pulling and teasing when I found out that she was from the mid west.

She then asks if I want to dance with her. This kind of caught me off guard but I couldn’t refuse. So we start dancing and we have intense eye contact. Sign #1 she is attracted. Before I couldn’t really tell because I wasn’t really paying attention. In a social circle I rely on patience, so I was not expecting much that night. Anyway, so we were dancing, bodies close to each other with some gazing. Our cheeks touch each other, she doesn’t flinch so I escalate to the makeout. It was short and I cut it off first: “That’s all you get…” Her look was something like “what are you talking about?” in a confusing way. It was weird. Few minutes later, we madeout again for a little bit. We dance a bit more, it gets boring, and she wanders off.

I don’t chase, so I wander off talking to other girls. Since there were a lot of single girls at the party, I started talking to some of them. One really hot girl stood out but she was on a date with a good friend of mine (I found out later) who was also there, so she was off limits. I just wanted to talk to as many girls as I can, even if it was very short. Just to get some face time and if I do see them again, I can reinitiate conversation with “Were you at X’s birthday party at club Y?” and establish that we have a mutual friend and get more sticky.

I then see the girl I madeout with again. Another guy at the birthday party starts talking to her and reading from her body language she was just being nice to him. They sit on the other end of the table, so I decided to run some jealousy plotlines. I was sitting on the other end and I bounced two girls to sit on both sides of me. I do some silly games and playful touching with these girls to make my target jealous. If a girl gets jealous, that’s an unpleasant way for her to find out she is attracted. Very powerful. She and the guy wander off getting drinks and I just keep having fun with these two girls.

Later I find my target again and I drag her off to the dancefloor. We makeout again and go back to table for some quick comfort building. I want to get her number and go from there. I was really in the mindset of slowburn game and not really thinking of taking her home that night. Since I know she’s in my extended social circle, I will have plenty of time to get with her. If I don’t see her again, oh well, it was a fun night either way. ABUNDANCE MENTALITY!!! I keep everyone entertained at the table and my target is off to the bathroom. I lose her the rest of the night and as everyone is leaving getting their car, I see her again waiting for her car to get pulled up.

I noticed that her buying temperature was way down. She was testing me a lot for some reason. I pass all of them and she starts to give me compliments. Haha so predictable, got to love female psychology. She is basicly giving me the green light so I get her number. Her car pulls up and says “get in the car….” with a serious demeanor. So I get in.

Now this is where I fucked up somewhere. I found out she lives like 30 min away on the west side, whereas I live 45 min away east side. My car was parked on the street so she drives me there. I say something like SS: Tonight was awesome, but I don’t want the night to end.
HB: Do you want to go to A bar?
SS: Sure, is there one near your place?
HB: No.
SS: We should go back to your place and have some drinks.
HB: No I have stuff to do tomorrow morning.
SS: Ok cool. You can drop me off here.

It was something like this. She forced me to get in her car which was really weird. I was totally not expecting that. Then I try to figure out the logistics. I didn’t want her to drive us both back to her place, because my car was still on the street and the last thing I wanted was to have it towed the next morning.

HB: Do you want to go to A bar?
SS: Sure, is there one near your place?

When she said that, she was down to do that. I respond and then she got cold. I’m pretty sure this was the turning point. FUCK! I wish I carpooled to the club. I failed big time last minute. For some reason, this always happens to me. When you least want to get laid, that’s when all the opportunities come your way.

Now there is a dilemma. She is in my extended social circle. I can either play it really slow and work it that way. Or I’m going to go full blown like it’s a girl I met through cold approach. I’m not sure yet what to do exactly. She is kind of far out of my circle, although we have like 3 mutual friends. So I’d probably be better off with slow burn game. I’ll text her and see how she responds. Based on that, I’ll see what happens. Either way, she is just ONE girl. I have other girls in the queue in my social circle, so I’m not to worried. ABUNDANCE BIATCH! It’s a great thing to have in your mind.

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So last night was the first time I met up with two of three guys of my 12 Weeks of Glory program. I had made a 2-page handout for the night with some writing exercises, infield missions, openers, and resources. We met up at a diner and just got to know each other.

I wanted a group of guys who were hungry and were successful in other areas of their life. These guys usually do the best from my bootcamp experiences. So we did the writing exercises where the first one was what they wanted to get out of this program. I did this because I wanted to see what kind of realistic or unrealistic goals they were setting for themselves. Goal setting, in my opinion, is really important if you want to learn a skill and can contribute to better inner game. Every time you hit a goal you’ve worked for, you get a rush of peptides that will make you feel good. Do this plenty of times and you will feel a lot more confident. That’s why I like having mini goals when you go out, even when they are really simple. That is also why I included the infield missions for the guys to hit. This time was pretty easy, but some in the future will be a lot harder.

The first night was really just getting a feel for where everyone is. One guy did really well; he could approach and keep talking. The other guy still has some approach anxiety, and that is okay. I expect to have guys to have approach anxiety and my goal is to squash that as soon as possible.

The first 3 or 4 weeks will all be about approaching and transitioning. I really want to hammer this process down because that in itself will give you an edge over 90% of the guys. Most guys don’t have the balls to approach a beautiful woman. If you have a good approach then the rest of the pickup will be a lot easier. Also there is a lot to cover for the first 10 seconds; facial expressions, body language and positioning, openers, touching, eye contact, just to name a few.

What’s funny though was me doing demos. The last couple of months I barely have done any approaches. Maybe 25 in the last 2 months? And most of the 25 are part of a recent bootcamp too. So I was a bit rusty when I had to approach. It was not that bad but I had to think while I was in set which I haven’t done in awhile. That felt kind of weird. I also noticed I immediately started with fascination and comfort game. Why? I guess I’ve spent too much time in strip clubs! Although that did pay off because I fucked a stripper in 20 minutes (for the LR see the Love Systems Lounge). But I have also spent a lot of time in social circle settings where you don’t have to game like you do in cold approach. I’m glad I didn’t fumble or anything but I definitely want to get back on doing cold approaches again. Especially since I’ll have to do demos I need to be on my A-game. Alrighty, back to going out doing cold approach again! No more strip clubs for a while.

BTW the guys did great infield. Can’t wait to see them again and kick some ass in the field.

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I found out recently that soon you will find pickup artists on Tyra Banks. No other than Savoy and Braddock of Love Systems will be there being interviewed by Tyra Banks herself.

They will air a video clip where you see them teaching game to a guy and then approach women. I have no idea yet when it will be aired, but I can’t wait to see it!

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It’s Monday night and I’m still recovering from the weekend. Exactly a week ago I wrote the same thing; I need to recover! Haha it’s like deja vu.

So Saturday I went to the social circle mastery seminar. I went to one at the Super Conference with Mr M and Braddock, but this time it was only Braddock teaching it.

He refined some of the material and I was taking notes on my laptop like a wildman. Some of the material was taught at a different way that made more sense. Being an advanced student, I could give other students a glimpse of what to expect and insights on the process. Also I learned new things that I’ve not heard before, so that was definitely good.

The next day was strippers and hired guns with Braddock and The Don. We had the seminar at Braddock’s pad which is really nice. We sat in the backyard, had some pizza while learning how to pickup strippers and hired guns in the sun and shadow. Very nice. This was also the second time I went to the seminar but I still learned a lot of new things. Between the first and second seminar I went to strip clubs to practice what I’ve learned and I can testify that it works.

After the seminar The Don invited me out to come to a BBQ part with him and Braddock. Of course I was down! So from the house on the Hills we went to another house on the Hills. Braddock’s place was nice, but this other place was nice too. I could totally see myself living in the Hills in a couple years and play that social life.

Back to recovering.

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It’s Monday and I’m still recovering from the bootcamp that took place the last couple of days. Today I had to skip school because I was too tired. I think it was better to give myself some rest than to kill myself over some boring lectures.

So The Don and Braddock were teaching. Braddock refined his teaching style and I really liked it a lot. The two usually teach different parts of the model and this was the first time for me to see Braddock teach attraction. I was pleasantly surprised with his stuff and loved it very much. Learned a ton of new stuff on attraction. It took him around 3,5 hours to teach attraction. Good stuff.

The students did really good and really pushed themselves. Another weekend of successful men have changed. It still surprises me sometimes why some people just are not successful with women, while they are really successful people.

During the seminar I was working on some of my stuff related to my job. As I was answering some emails, out of nowhere Braddock asks me if I want to teach physical escalation. Not knowing that I had to teach something, I said “Of course!” This was the first time for me to teach during the seminar and I was actually really nervous. I had to read the notes of Braddock on physical escalation so they didn’t make much sense to me, so I went just with the flow. First ten minutes was a bit rough but after that I was relaxed and calm. It just reminded me that I need to start teaching more. I mean I know the stuff, but actually explaining and teaching it is a different ball game.

I can’t wait to go to other bootcamps in different cities. I hope to help out in a Chicago and NYC bootcamp. I’ve heard only good things about them and I want to visit the cities myself too.

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Yesterday I went to a networking event in Hollywood. Right after work I walked over and I was pleasantly surprised with the ratio of men and women. It’s wasn’t a sausage factory as I initially expected, so that was good.

I went there as a “dating coach” instead of “affiliate manager”. Even though I’m both, I thought the former was more interesting and it’s something I’m a lot more passionate about at this point of my life.

My first thought was that talking to girls at this type of parties was going to be easy in the initial phase of the interaction. I mean, it’s a networking event after all. So people are supposed to talk to each other and you can just go up with “Hi what do you do?”. But that was kind of dangerous too. It was like hired gun game where you initially already have the frame set (networking). So my tactic was to break out of that frame as soon as possible by teasing the girl a lot and leading the conversation. Instead of taking a business card, you want to take down the cell number of the girl.

After some warming up I saw this 2set of brunettes. Both hot and one of them was very tall, like 5′11-ish. Of course I went after that one first ;) I always like to point the obvious and flip the script, so I opened her with “You are very short…” and just took it from there. I did ask her what she did but then immediately took over the conversation.

The thing is that being a dating coach was a good identity to have at that party. I never got the impression that girls thought I was a player or casanova or something like that, but partly has to due how I dress and carry myself.

So this 2set was immediately into me. Initially we talked about body language and how it related to sales but I also explained how it works for dating. From that moment on, I just kept talking about being an instructor (Disclaimer: I’m not officially an instructor yet at LS, but I’m getting there) and how much I loved my job. But the cool thing was I could be really genuine about my job and really show my passion. I honestly I never thought I’ve displayed so much passion and drive before ever. It’s really weird, but these girls totally got my vibe. That feeling I had of being understood, it was something I really never felt before. It’s really hard for people to really ‘get me’. Even for friends I’ve known for a long time, they do not always get me. But that feeling of being TRUELY understood is something a girl needs to feel too and that’s where tight qualification game comes in. Now I understand what it feels like to be understood and I realize how important qualification REALLY is.

These girls were also very goal oriented and focused on their careers. They shared the same viewpoints on school, career, life, dating, and so many other topics. When I kept talking about WHY and how MUCH I loved my job as an instructor, I could just pour out and they totally loved it. I honestly never felt so much understood by a girl before. Honestly, not even by my best friend. She had to learn it over a couple of years, but these girls, especially the tall one, we just connected instantaneously.

I mean, I’ve went out a lot and met plenty of girls. Most of them were cool people, sometimes airheads, sometimes just clueless. But these were actually REALLY cool and were totally my lost sisters. We already established that I was their lost brother and they were my sisters from another mother.

But what I found the most interesting was that when I ran my REAL qualification stuff, things I want in a long-term girlfriend, they totally matched. Usually in a club or bar I’ll ask dirty qualification compliance things like “what’s your favorite ninja turtle / secret super power” just to run qualification to advance myself. Not on these girls of last night, especially the tall one. I basicly screened her on all my qualification stuff and she was just perfect. Like, really perfect. I never felt so much connected to someone before.

I remember Soul telling me a while ago that passion also reduced flaking. If you can demonstrate passion to a girl where she really feels that and can relate to it, she will not flake on you. Last night was just the perfect example of that. Of course I moved the girls around and all that but the level of passion that we shared definitely made everything stick.

So what’s the point of this post? There are girls like those 2 out there. I honestly never met a girl before who really understood me in such a short period of time. Like, I’m still baffled. These were the girls I got in the game for. Hot and totally understanding me. Gosh, these girls are so awesome. We’re planning to go out again soon together.

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The best way to get a 10 is to be a 10.

I can’t remember who said this to me, but it had me thinking lately. One of the reasons I’ve started studying dating science was that I wanted to have a girlfriend who is my absolute TEN. She’s physically a 10 and personality wise too. At this point I can honestly say I’ve not fucked a TEN yet, but my search still goes on. Physically I’ve seen 10s but I’ve not dated one yet.

One of my wings, Dee, said this to me the other day: “You are someone’s ten.” He’s saying that, even though I’m at a stage of my life where I try to improve my overall life, I’m already someone’s perfect guy. I just don’t know it and I haven’t met her yet. It’s like in Swingers where Trent (Vince Vaughn) says “You’re so money and you don’t even know it!” This is a really good frame to have and I’ve adopted ever since he and I have been talking about it. That doesn’t necessary mean that the girl is a 10, but it will make you realize that you’re fine the way you are already. There’s only room for more improvement.

So I want a girl who is my ten. Wouldn’t it only be fair if I was her ten? “You want the woman of your dreams so you have to be the man of her dreams.” Again, I can’t remember who told me this but that has really hit me lately. I’ve been working on all areas of my life the last couple of months. The trip back home in summer 08 has really cleaned up a lot of shit in my life. I rebuilt my business (I recently sold it to really focus on school and my current job at Love Systems), have a great job, and a great social life.

I remember Savoy telling me at the first LA bootcamp where I helped out, not too long ago, that I should work on only 9s and 10s. For some reasons he could tell I was not getting any of those type of girls, which is totally true. I’ve fucked some ugly girls, average girls, and good looking girls. But not really a girl where I could say: DAMN SHE IS SUPER HOT. Also right now I don’t feel like getting another average or good looking girl. I really want those super hot girls. At this point I feel I deserve one of them.

In a post by Rokker on The Attraction Forums, he wrote about gaming 9s and 10s. I quote:

The real key to gaming 9’s and 10’s is in your head. You see, when people say that getting hot girls isn’t harder – just different – that ASSUMES a few things; most importantly that you also consider yourself to have the same value as the girl. This is vital… if you for one second doubt that you don’t have as much value as the girl or don’t deserve the girl (and let that show) it’s game over. YOU GOT TO BELIEVE THAT YOU DESERVE HER.

In that topic I posted, May 13 2008, that I didn’t feel like I deserved a ten. Now that I have a lot of problems fixed in my life, I really feel like I deserve a 9 or a 10. It took me about 10 months to make that switch, but who cares. Time is not an issue (I’ve written about that in my post “progress can feel directionless”) When Savoy told me that piece of advice, I wanted to go for it at the time, but deep down inside I didn’t feel like I really deserved a super hot girl. Now is a different story.

Jokingly, I’ve written down on my online signatures and online profiles: “I am $$$” It just really reflects how I see myself now :)

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Part I is here.

So right now it’s just all attraction and attraction. Now my idea is to also build a bit of comfort by interspersing it with some regular “AFC” texts to keep it normal. Now my transition was really bad, but it did it’s job. Urgghh…still bad when I read this :)

(2 hours later)
Me: Hehehe respect. What have you been up to lately?
Her: Just got out from body scrub & oil massage :D treat for myself <3 it's good. U should try it :P
Me: Ooooh nice. You can do it on me sometime. All my 7 wives can't do that so I could use a 8th wife who can rub my back ;)
Her: Too bad that I don't do it by myself. I'll introduce u the place I go in ktown, ok? ;)
Me: It better not be a happy ending place
Her: Haha u r funny

She's not complying and I think it's due to the 2 hours that passed. I was hoping she said that she would rub my back, but instead she gives me a recommendation. Not necessary a bad thing, but not what I was shooting for. But she still likes the texting so I can proceed.

Again, after some "comfort" (for lack of better word) I go back into attraction again to keep it up. Again super obvious and just being funny. My definition of comfort in the context of text game is that she has some glimpse of my life. So it can be just one line where I said that I just came back class or whatever. Anything where she will find out more about me and is not "gamey".

Next day
Me: I just made you look at your phone for no reason...looks like I got you in check =]
Her: Believe or not i do more stuff w/o any reason lol so this doesn't bother me at all ;)
Me: You're such a goofball. What are you plans this week. I have something exciting going on, but only for cool people.
Her: Im kinda busy this week....is next week ok for u?
Me: That works. Please leave your tears and drama at home ok? :)
Her: Big girls don't cry ok? Haha when do wanna go next week?
Me: Hehe. Thursday works for me.
Her: Ok

Again I re-initiate with something funny and start building momentum, because I was planning to take her out. I don't text out of nowhere "what are you doing next week?" but first something else and then slowly into the interaction I'll find out what her schedule is like. So I ask her that and basicly ask her out. Now the last part is important of "but only for cool people". It's there to soften the blow if she doesn't want to go, and I totally stole the idea from dahunter in his distractor post on TAF. I don't ask it in a yes/no question to avoid any awkwardness. I already called her a goofball and if she can't go out, she can banter back out it and subtexting that she can't go. But in this case she just straight up says she can't go. But she is the one who wants to set a date, so it's probably legit that she is busy, and is still interested.

3 days later
Me: If grannies keep driving dangerously on the roads I might have to intervene some day! How's your day?
Her: Midterms & papers are killing me :S How's your day?
Me: Poor little girl. My day is awesome. Just got myself a nice home made pad Thai cooked by moi *so proud*
Her: Wow u cook? Impressive :) I wanna learn how to cook thai food too >.<
Me: You can’t cook? That’s it…I’m filing for divorce. I’ll keep the money and house, you keep the 6 kids.
Her: I cook but I dont cook thai food :( dont forget to pay the reparation lol
Me: Oh you CAN cook. I like that :) Forget about the divorce then. Lets trade services. You cook me sushi, I’ll eat your food. Fair? :)
Her: Im filing for divorce! Japanese dont cook sushi at home!

Basicly I re-initiate contact with something funny and random thing. I set it up knowing that I will throw in a cooking / divorcing roleplay. Something Braddock taught me: “ask the questions you want to answer.” Ever since I’ve adopted that, I always have things to say in set or know a few steps ahead what my moves are in any situation. Pretty money. The rest is standard role playing. Did I tell you I like role playing?

Also, my day is always cooler than hers. I’m always cooler than her. I like keeping that mindset and interactions that way, where I’m always cooler than the girl.

At this point I did overkill the whole roleplaying. Like way too much. But still she is playing along, so I guess I’ll just keep pushing it.

4 days later
This is a text routine I’ve been using a lot lately and has always worked great. I call it the “call the occupation” routine, where I basicly pretend to be calling her at her job and talking to her. This girl works for an insurance company, so pretend to talk to her with some callback humor about my butt.

Me: *ring ring* Hi I’m [name] and I would like to talk to an insurance representative for my butt.
Her: Please choose the option: 1 payment. 2 claim. 3 customer service.
Me: *pressed 3*
Her: How can I help you?
Me: I think I have a date with a crazy Japanese girl this Thursday and I want to precaution my butt against any spanking. Should I add accident coverage?
Her: U need to add accidental coverage and I would recommend u to add towing coverage with covers the ambulance expense
Me: That’s going to be an expensive date. Could you look up her records for me? Her name is [name]. Description: pretty face, slim and sexy body, and a huge nerd.
Her: Hesitate to tell u but….U need to be really careful. She is on the blacklist.
Me: Hmmm….I’ll take my chance. She might be worth it. Thanks for the customer support. Bye.

So this routine is pretending you calling her on the job and talking about the girl in 3rd person. Also I gave her a compliment. I usually don’t do that, especially not physically, but I gave it a shot. I’m not sure what her response means to it, but she keeps playing along that she will hurt the innocent virgin. I’m also letting her know that she hasn’t completely won me over with that last sentence.

Day of the date
Me: Hey are we still on for tonight?
Her: Yes 9 rite?
Me: Yeah. See you then.

Couple hours later
Her: Im leaving my place now.

And so we went on a date. Basicly on the day of the date I always text to see if the date is still on. If she’s gonna flake, might as well find out early so I can make new plans.

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Part II is here.

My first text-game breakdown! By no means am I an expert on text game, but I have experimented a lot with it. Last couple of months I’ve switched to text-game only to keep in contact with girls, to keep numbers warm, and to get girls out on dates. This is just to work on my text game, because I’m comfortable calling girls. Right now I just call girls when they are in my social circle.

Anyway, after seeing Formhandle talk on text game and he liked my text game, I’ve decided to post up a conversation that’s from the beginning all the way to the date.

Background: I met this girl through another friend and the second time I met her was at a big dinner party. We sat next to each other (smooth move by me) and I grabbed her phone, called my number, and programmed my number as “Charming [name]“.

During the dinner party we started texting.

Me: Do you speak text?
Her: Yeah :))
Me: Cool. You’ve earned +1 point.
Her: LOL!
Me: Compatibility test: chocolate or vanilla? Shower or bath? Bonus Q: favorite ninja turtle?
Her: Haha chocolate and bath. Donatello ofc!!
Me: -2.
Her: Haha whatev!

So I just start with a canned one-liner that never disappoints. I like using a point system with girls to get them qualify themselves and subtext a screening vibe. I continue doing this with the compatibility test (credit Savoy) but I used it in another context than Savoy does. So I throw out some hoops and she jumps through all of them. Now normally you always reward good behavior, but no matter what the girl answers, I always play it off like she loses me. Not sure if it’s the right thing to do, but seems to be working for me. I think because if you already have that flirty vibe, it works.

We split off at the party and somewhere around 00:30am I text her to see if she is down to fuck.

Me: I just woke you up ;P

I’ve only tried this text once and it worked, but I want to test it more. Basicly, if the girl responds pretty fast I call her up and figure out if she is DTF. If not, maybe she is already asleep, it gives her a reason to text me back so we can continue texting. This was really a shot in the dark with her, I had no idea if she wanted to fuck or not. But I’m always up for experimenting. In this case she didn’t text back till the next morning.

Her: too bad u didn’t wake me up :P
Me: But you did wake me up. I hate you :)
Her: I thought u r having a lunch that was perfect timing, wasn’t it? :P
Me: Noooo! I don’t know who your boyfriend was….but he did not spank you enough!
Her: Hahaha spanks don’t work on me LOL
Me: Uh oh….I don’t want to know what you hide in your closet. I can’t handle whips and chains.
Her: Didn’t know japanese is hardcore? Still got a lot to learn boy ;)
Me: You’re right. My butt has insurance and it’s against the policy to get whipped by little innocent japanese girls.
Her: Please add the accident coverage on ur insurance then u will be fine ;) that covers for people do extreme sports <3

Basicly I do a lot of fantasy roleplaying in my text. A lot. Sometimes it’s too much and over the top, but I’m still experimenting with it. Some girls totally dig it, others play along for a little bit and then just go back to normal. I still need to find some calibration in this, but this girls eats it up.

“I hate you :)” basicly means “I like you”. I like to set early on that we’re flirting over text, so first I did the screening thing and now I basicly give her a SOI. So whenever we continue texting, it’s on and flirty.

The classic spanking line. I almost use this every time somewhere in my text to sexualize it a little bit early on. Also in every text the girl is always the sexual aggressor and I’m just an innocent virgin and little boy. In this case, the girl is couple years older and she already teased me about being younger. So she does that again and it’s sort of a test. So I run with it and just make it absurd by saying that can’t hurt my butt. But the thing is that I know this girl works for an insurance company, so I always try to make my teases and roleplays relevant to their hobbies or jobs. The concepts and frames are always the same, just a little adjusted to each girl.

2 days later
Me: Hey dork we have a serious problem
Her: What problem sir?
Me: I took a pregnancy test….it’s yours.
Her R u sure? U shoulda take dna test
Me: I was an innocent virgin before you came along. Just face it! You have to pay me child support!
Her: I was innocent too u think u r the only one lost something? Im so disappointed…
Me: You were the one who got me drunk! I just want to make sure daddy is paying! I need the money to buy me some MAC and gucci bag.
Her: Talk to my lawyer! I don’t remember what happened! I don’t pay for something i don’t remember!

Key to roleplays is that they are super obvious. If they are not obvious, then they aren’t as fun. Also, role reversals are money and make them obvious. Even though she played along, reading this makes me think I could improve my text game little bit from above. Any suggestions are welcome.

Also, every time I re-initiate with a girl, it always starts off with a role play that I’ve planned out. So in this case, it’s the pregnancy role play and how she will have to pay child support and so on. It’s a way to build momentum and get her invest in me. Investment is important. The more a girl invests in you, the more she will value you. This will build more compliance and so on.

Another thing, mirroring is also important. If I send a long text and she replies with an one-word answer, she’s not complying as much as hoped. So in that case I also respond with something short. But if she responds with some long answer too, it’s on.

Timing of texts is also important. I almost never immediately respond. I take my time to respond and come up with some analysis and some contingencies. I like to think a few steps ahead. So if I sent a text, and she responds 1 minute later, I’ll usually text back within 15 minutes or so. That way you can banter back and forth to keep that momentum up. But if it takes her to text back 2 or 3 hours, I’ll wait just as long to text her back. I will definitely not text back any sooner than it took her to reply.

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